Truth is Non-negotiable - Offense is a Choice - Part One
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With those kinds of numbers, it is an impossibility to please everyone with what you write, what you share on Facebook, what you post on IG or Twitter. Even the human experiences will be greatly varied. You cannot write something that is universally accepted. Sometimes people will be offended. That's just how it is. Even if you tell the truth, people get offended. If you share an opinion, offense will be found.
No matter how hard you try, not all people will like what you have to say. But you know what?
That's okay. You can't write to everyone. You can't please everyone. You can't expect everyone to write to you. Just do your thing and speak your truth in love, knowing that it won't apply to everyone. That doesn't mean it won't apply to some.
Truth doesn't have to be acknowledged by all to be true.
I remember once questioning my two year old about putting a blue marker in his mouth. I could see the marker all over his face, lips and mouth and yet he was adamant that he did not put the marker anywhere near his face. The truth was apparent but protested. His lack of seeing the truth did not have an impact on my knowing the truth.
Sometimes you need to read something and make this assessment: "This is not for me." And move on. It's as simple as that. Maybe it's not your taste, your experience, your way of doing things or your reality. That does not make it impossible for it to be many other people's taste, experience, way of doing things or reality.
Maybe it's not true for you. That makes it no less true for another. And it being truth for another does not make it an offense to you. Truth is constant. Offense is a choice.
If you find yourself offended, here's some practical help for you...
Simply keep scrolling. If someone else's truth brings anger to your heart, perhaps you should be looking at your heart and stop trying to argue them out of their truth. There's a reason for your anger.
What does the bible tell us about offense? That it's a hotbed of discord and every vile practice.
For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist (offense), there will be disorder and every vile practice. James 3:16
If you're the subject of offense, there are some practical points and thoughts about it...
Michael Hyatt says four things about offense:
"God will often deliver us in a manner that seems initially to destroy us". Doesn't that bring comfort to you while facing someones offense at you? They intend to break you down with words but God will build you up with action!
---Satan intends offense for our destruction. He will rile people up to scare us off of our God given path. Don't let it work. Just think about how many hours are lost when you are upset over someone's cross words at you?
---God intends offenses for our good. God uses all things together for our good. All things. ALL of them. He doesn't pick and choose, the bible tells us so.
---Being offended is a choice. And it's an individual choice. People can choose to be offended but you don't have to play along. If you've done your part and you've been honest, what else can you do?
At the end of the day don't let it bring you down. You have confidence in YOU, be true to YOU and your calling and there you can find certainty. There's a good chance those people are trolls and as Glennon Doyle says...it must be hard to be so short and have such unruly hair.
More on how to handle it in part two on Friday! Stay tuned!