my best advice {a huggies post}

I've been asked by BlogHer and Huggies to take some walks down memory lane and explore some (what I think will be) FUN subjects about babies and having them and getting ready for them and all the fun stuff that goes with THEM! I volunteered for this series for selfish reasons. I think it will be a great way to document some thoughts and feelings that maybe I haven't before but should have. I hope you will enjoy them, too!

Are you having your first baby? I wish we could sit and have coffee and I could share with you all my favorite advice, in a non "you have to do it my way" kind of way. I'd love to give you an honest account of childbirth (it hurts, A LOT) and motherhood (it's the best) and how your life is about to change.

We would talk about how your body will never be the same but how you will be OK with that. It can actually get pretty close to the way it was before but you need to be patient with yourself.

We would talk about how you have people in your life who are trying to tell you what to do, even if it feels wrong to you. I would tell you to listen to what you think is right because you are the one who has to live your life and become the mother you will be.

I would tell you about how scary being a mom can be. How you need to take a lot of deep breaths, breaks and cups of coffee.

I would tell you that it's OK to tell people to mind their own business and not let people tell you how to take care of your newborn. You have a lot to learn and the only way to do that is by jumping in and getting wet.

We would have an honest discussion about how you won't always like your baby but you will always love them. You will have hard moments where you'll cry together and feel hopeless. You will get through them all.

I would also tell you that if it's important to you, do it, you'll feel better. When I was a new mom people would tell me "forget the dishes" and "leave the laundry" you'll get to them someday. I hated that advice. Taking care of my home was important to me and a messy house would have made me miserable. Feel free to ignore any and all advice, including mine.

But mostly, as we drank coffee, I would let you ask me anything. I would tell you the truth. Any question that you wanted to know the REAL answer to, I would give it to you. Because you know what? The worst part of having a baby is that no one ever tells you the truth about it but rather try to fill you up with fluff and frills. I hated that too. Not a single friend told me the truth even when I asked for it.

I'll always tell you truth. Even if it's scary.
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