Happy Memorial day to you!
As crazy as it sounds...this has been the best holiday ever. Do you want to know why? It's not because of what we did or where we went. It was because this Memorial day was the FIRST holiday EVER for us as a couple where working retail was not part of our lives. It feels SO great knowing that Doug has off EVERY weekend. He get a ton of paid holidays that he HAS to take...no more begging for time off and being denied. He gets a WEEK off for the 4th of July! We are so thrilled to be leaving the world of retail faaaaaar behind us. Though I will say, it should be a law somewhere that everyone has to work in retail and be a waiter/waitress at some point of their young lives. You learn a lot about how to treat people in both worlds.
So, we didn't do much but for the first time ever we got to do all American holiday things ON the actual holiday.
I love Goodwill! :)
I can't even handle how fast time is going and how fast my boys are growing.
Moses is in kindergarten next year. Kindergarten. Ugh.
I need to go stress eat. Time is an unfair player.
I am SO proud of how far it and I have come over the last five years...all that I have learned and shared and grown!
I can still remember the day that Doug came home from work and I told him "I think I'm gonna make cards and sell them in an online shop". I had no idea that that decision would turn into a real live business where I can earn just as much as I could with my COLLEGE DEGREE! Crazy!
In fact, I truly believe that Little Bit Funky is part of the reason that God moved us to Charlottesville.
There aren't many days that I am not completely enamored with what I get to do for a living, all will taking care of my little monkeys. I am blessed and grateful for it all. I am especially grateful for each and every one of you who have supported me over the last five years...so many of you have become dear friends to me and I am forever thankful for your support!
So let's celebrate!!!
To celebrate my five year anniversary I'll send ONE of you a happy, happy birthday package from me! Who knows what I will find to put in there but it will at least contain an iPad or Kindle case, a pouch and a sunglasses case!
To enter this giveaway leave me a comment telling me how long you have been a Little Bit Funky fan and/or how you found me! :) I'll choose a winner next week!
Have a great Friday!
The first rule I broke was "Do not give your baby a pacifier until breastfeeding is well established." Now, while neither of my boys took to a pacifier long-term, they both had one for the first couple of weeks from day one, within HOURS of birth. It was either BE the pacifier or GIVE them one. Doing this definitely helped us through the first few sleepy weeks. Giving them a pacifier allowed me a break and satisfied the babies' need to suck. They both went on to be great nursers.
The next rule that I found completely annoying was "If you are breastfeeding right, it shouldn't hurt." WRONG. Just wrong. Granted, I was still learning with my first one, but by the second one I was a pro. Guess what? It still hurt for a couple of weeks with the second one. It WILL hurt until your body adjusts to what you are doing. Both WHERE your baby directly feeds from (trying to keep this PG, folks) and your uterus will hurt like heck for a couple of weeks. Saying that breastfeeding won't hurt unless you are doing it wrong is as dumb as saying new shoes should never hurt you. I've worn flip-flops my whole life, and every year when I break them out for the first time they hurt my feet. Does that mean I'm wearing them wrong?
Another rule I threw out the window? "Keep the baby on a strict schedule of feedings." I nursed on demand for both boys. NO WAY I would have ever woken up a sleeping baby, especially at night. It wasn't until they were both over 2 1/2 that I would even wake them up from a nap to ensure they would go to sleep easily at night. It made sense to nurse them when they were hungry, as their little bodies were getting on their own natural schedules, which was OUR schedule as a family.
My point here is to take anyone's advice on how to breastfeed "properly" as just a suggestion. YOU have to decide how to make it work for you. One thing I WILL say and BEG of you: if you DO choose to breastfeed, or at least try to do so, commit to it for at least a month. I have heard so many people say that they tried for two weeks but then quit because it was too hard. Well, guess when it starts to get easier? Day 15. After two weeks it becomes more and more easy to do. Your body has had time to adjust; if it has been hurting, it will fade away after two weeks; milk production will start to regulate; and overall, it (generally) gets so much easier. Just take it one day at a time.
How about you? Did you break any breastfeeding rules?
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Next year he will be in Kindergarten in a public school...so this may be the last time I can get away with sending treats to school with him.
I thought it would be fun to make these cute little treat bags for his little friends using the free printable from Anything But Perfect! They were too cute not to share...I filled the bags with gummy bears but you could go a much healthier route! :)
This post has been swirling in my head for some time.
I think, and hope, it will be a friendly reminder or heads up for everyone, myself included. It is not meant to sound arrogant or self-righteous in any way...because I need to remember these things as much as the next person.
I realize that I am not the author of THE most popular blog out there, I know there are tons out there that are way better than me in millions of different ways. In a way, I am thankful for each day I am spared the ugly side of the web because the more people who see your blog, the more chances there are for ugliness to show up...it's just a matter of statistics.
This is my experience, as I have had growth and changes in unexpected ways and have been basically learning as I go over the last five years with this whole blogging thing. I am beyond THRILLED with where I am. Amazed and humbled at what God has allowed me to accomplish with what little skill I possess.
Even with my small window of expertise, I have learned a lot and thought I would share a little view into the inside, just a little "just so you know" kinda stuff and generally address some issues that many, many bloggers face.
Let's start with email and comments.
I get oodles and oodles of emails and comments daily. Just stating, not bragging. I love them all (usually). I do my best to reply to as many as I can because I DO want my readers to feel loved and appreciated (because you ARE!!). My goal is to keep my inbox under 200 things that need my attention in some way. Yes, 200. Six months out of the year, that is not TOO hard to do, the other six months, forget about it. If you email me (or ANY blogger) please keep in mind that we are busy people just like you. If I don't reply to your comment or email, it means nothing other than, you may be in line behind maybe 200 people. Blogging does not give us any more time in the day than anyone else.
I do not hate you. I am not ignoring you. I don't dislike you. None of those things are true. Please don't send an email asking why any of the above are true.
There are some emails or comments that I delete or weed out if you will and I know that other bloggers do the same.
These emails include:
--Weird questions about my kids and family....um, no.
--Demanding emails. "I need you to DO THIS RIGHT NOW!!!". Yes, it happens. It's usually a rude request for a how-to or where did I get such and such. No please or thank you in sight. Happens regularly.
--Things I KNOW Google can answer. Sorry.
--Comments with NO email address attached to them. I cannot answer them without an email.
Another common issue is...people assuming that having ads = selling out. Yeah, no again. I take great care in choosing which ads have the honor of appearing next to stories about my kids and family. Those ads to the right allow me a way to stay at home with my kids in a way that is not obtrusive to my kids or my life. If ANY blogger has ads and they annoy you...please take into account why you visit that blog in the first place. Is it because you love that blogger and what they have to say or share? Then don't you think they deserve a little compensation for that if they can get it? Do you strongly dislike that blogger? Then you shouldn't be there in the first place, ad or no ad. A blogger who proudly shows off their "ad free" badge is just as much a "sell out" as a blogger with an ad. Let's all just assume that we each seek what is best for our blog and family sake.
Another issue...people think that the 10% they see on a blog is equal to 100% real life. I will speak for every blogger out there...the sunny happy ones, the gloomy ones, the ones that tell a mix of things and all the ones in between...you are ONLY getting a tiny fraction of our lives. Please don't fill in the rest for us with impossible standards and heights of achievement. Rarely blogged are the temper tantrums, the yelling at the kids, the losing of the patience, the arguments with a spouse, the rashness of a tired mom, the cereal for dinner, the disagreements with a friend, the spilling of coffee on a rug, the messed up projects, the disrobed poopy diaper or the baking flops that we all have. No one has a perfect life. I know that for me, I do my best to share the happy parts and the struggles because for me, it provides a nice measuring stick to see how far I've come but even then there is a lot you don't see or get to read. If it makes me really happy, I blog it. If it makes me really sad, I blog it. If it's meh...well, you won't hear about that. Bloggers ARE people JUST like everyone else. Just like you.
If you see us in public, it's OK to say hello. :) It might actually help with the above issue.
Along with the whole "we are people too thing"...please keep in mind that we have the same ability to be hurt and happy, just like everyone. Please keep that in mind when you email or comment or mention us on your blog. You would be AMAZED and stunned at the things people say because they figure it will never get back to the person...guess what? It always does and even virtual "sticks and stones" hurt. Gossip travels. The end. Be nice.
A lot of the time, the internet does a fabulous job of dehumanizing us to others and others to us. It's easy to look at a pretty blog and just imagine how easy someone elses life may be because you only see photos of flowers, perfect meals and impeccable parties. You could slice any life into frames and choose the ones that would make it look glamorous. True statement.
I don't know. Maybe this seems like a huge long ramble. I just know that lately, I have seen more ugly directed at me and other "popular" bloggers that is just downright nasty and it's getting to me. I wanted to stand a little in their defense and beckon others to stand in the gap of grace. If you see ugly small talk, squash it. Spread loving words. Talk about others like you would sitting across the table having coffee with them. The internet is capable of such lovely things...if we can only make the dark underbelly tiny and hard to find.
Anything you care to add bloggers and readers alike?
mason jar lids (I use wide mouth ones)
a drill with a 3/8in drill bit
rubber grommets ( I got them from Lowe's in the section where you buy the nails and screws. They are in the drawers under "hard to find" items). See photo below.
These are SO easy!! Don't be afraid to jump in there and get some made! Go, go, go!!
Much easier than I thought...as easy as regular markers.
Sometimes it just takes a little time and effort to make everyday things look a little more magical. At least that's what I tell myself.
How are you celebrating the end of the school year? Are you ready for your kids to be home 100% of the time? Which team are you on...the I love my kids home all the time team or the dear lord help me until September team?
During this visit, I asked Grandpa what his favorite story is, so that Doug could record him telling it (thank you iPhone!). He proceeded to tell us a story about a time where he was heading home from a business trip. There was some sort of snowstorm that kept most of the flights grounded. In an instant a flight opened up and then another opened up that would be leaving five minutes later. Grandpa convinced his boss to get on the second one. The first flight (that he didn't take) collided head on with another commercial flight with 100% fatality. This man is full of amazing stories and we will be taking advantage of hearing them told with each visit and do our best to preserve the ones we can so our boys can hear them first hand one day.
We are thankful and feel blessed with each opportunity to see them!