No place like home for the holidays...a huggies post


I've been asked by BlogHer and Huggies to take some walks down memory lane and explore some (what I think will be) FUN subjects about babies and having them and getting ready for them and all the fun stuff that goes with THEM! I volunteered for this series for selfish reasons. I think it will be a great way to document some thoughts and feelings that maybe I haven't before but should have. I hope you will enjoy them, too!

What is it about the combination of having a new baby and it being the holidays that gives everyone in your life permission to suddenly tell you what to do, how to do it and where to be for each and every minute of a holiday? I know that when Moses was born there was great assumption born with him. Certain family members had already planned out where we would be for both Christmas and Thanksgiving, when sleepovers would occur, how we would handle Santa and where we would wake up on Christmas morning.

The truth is, when it comes down to it, if you want to have an enjoyable holiday season you have to learn one thing: how to say no.

I mentioned before that you and your spouse need to discuss NOW before it gets crazy how you, as the nuclear family unit, want to spent the holidays. If you want to spend it at home, great! Know that now so you can inform those who might be expecting you to do otherwise. Want to state hop all over? Great! Let the people you plan to visit know so that they can be better prepared to host a young infant.

The important thing is to keep the important things the important things. It doesn't matter if your mother is happy with you if you husband isn't. The holidays are not the time for you to revert back to middle school and play the baby of the family at your parents' house; now is the time to establish traditions for YOUR baby. By talking out your plans with your spouse it will be easier on you to let others know why you won't be at their home Christmas morning. Your come back can start with "Well, Doug and I have discussed it and decided that..." It let's people know that you have already made a choice.

I'm not saying people will be happy with you going off and making plans with your new baby and all that don't include them. If people are anxious to see your new little one, make alternate plans that don't fall on a day that is important to you and your husband, especially if you have decided together to spend Christmas or Thanksgiving alone. The most important thing is to stick to the plans you and your husband have decided on together and don't back each other into corners based on family members being unhappy with your choices.

Knowing what will make you happiest during the holidays starts with knowing what kind of baby you have...one that will be OK schedule-wise with short day trips, guests coming to you or long out of state journeys. Each baby is different and some don't care where they lay their heads...others only want home. Know the workings of your little one and you can start to plan from there.

Just keep in mind, that while your family may push for your time around the holidays it's your spouse and children who you have to live with year round. You don't want them to build memories over mom and dad working to make everyone happy but themselves. It's OK to put your family first.
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