what's in a name - a huggies post

I've been asked by BlogHer and Huggies to take some walks down memory lane and explore some (what I think will be) FUN subjects about babies and having them and getting ready for them and all the fun stuff that goes with THEM! I volunteered for this series for selfish reasons. I think it will be a great way to document some thoughts and feelings that maybe I haven't before but should have. I hope you will enjoy them, too!

Today's post is all about the name game! What WILL you name that baby? What a huge job, right? You want to somehow find THE perfect name for that tiny little human you have been carrying around for the last nine months. It's a huge, daunting task that should not be taken lightly. Never mind that you don't really KNOW the person you are naming. 

With our boys, we knew we wanted a strong name for each of them. There are some boys' names out there that just don't scream BOY or man or strong. We wanted to name our boys something they would have to live up to. 

Naming Moses was much more difficult than naming Aaron. While pregnant with Moses, we went through name after name after name. Some of them I shudder to think of having used...and thankfully we didn't have a girl. I won't tell you what her name would have been. 

I was pretty far along with Moses (at the time still an unnamed baby) when Doug and I went out to dinner. The song "Moses" by Coldplay came on, and so we threw the name out there, batted it around a little, and before we left we had pretty much decided that our baby's first name would be Moses IF he was a boy. (With Moses, we didn't find out the sex before he was born.) When it came to picking a middle name, an easy choice emerged: Doug's grandpa is Austin, and we loved both the name and the man, so Moses Austin became our first little boy. 

When it came to naming Aaron, well, like I said it was much easier to name him. You can't have a Moses without an Aaron. We decided to keep with the grandfather line and used a name from Doug's other grandpa, Howard. That's also Doug's middle name and Doug's dad's middle name. It's also fun that Aaron's initials are the same as Doug's dad's. :) 

So both boys ended up with strong, meaningful names. Names they have to live up to. Names we love as much to this day as we did when we gave them.
My humble advice to you when naming your new baby? 

Look A LOT! Makes lists, look on the internet and books. I did not ask people, other than my husband, what to name my baby. People get all weird if you don't use their name suggestions. In fact...
DON'T tell anyone your baby's name or names you are considering. Wait to tell them until the baby is born. People are a lot less likely to weigh in on your choice once it's already written on the birth certificate. With Moses, only one person besides Doug and me knew his name. With Aaron we were a little more relaxed, but I think we kept the middle name a secret at least. Maybe.
And finally...you HAVE to agree with your husband on the name choice. You both have to love it. You can't wait until your husband is out of the room and rush the nurse to write up the birth certificate. Don't use an old boyfriend's name or some name your husband hates. Just think how YOU would feel about that. :)
Above all, give it lots of thought. And don't worry too much about how kids in school will make fun of it. No matter what you choose, kids will always find a way. :)
Be sure to check out all my other baby advice posts HERE. Worth a read, for sure!

Find more posts from bloggers sharing their experiences of motherhood on the Huggies page on BlogHer.com.


Unknown said...

My husband is Douglas Howard also named after his grandpa (dad's dad)! None of our sons got the name, but the third boy got Douglas for a middle name after both grandpa names got used! Back in the day when we were naming sons we decided it had to sound good on the pro golf tour or for the presidency. Oh boy. We were young!

Lindsay said...

I want to hear your girl name! You didn't use it, so there's no reason to be embarrassed now :)

I do have to disagree with one thing. I think you have to think about names that could potentially be made fun of. It's bad enough for a kid to be teased about their hair or how they dress, but something they have absolutely no control of? That's heartbreaking to me. Kids can be cruel, why make it any easier for them?

Just my opinion :). Love these Huggies posts!

Fawnda@Fireflies and Jellybeans said...

We didn't tell any one the name of our kids until they were home from Korea (both adopted) and my in-laws asked me "Did you have to name him that?" When we told them our son's name. Ha! I said "No- We picked that name!" Ah- well my hubby and I love it and that is all that matters! : )

csmith said...

I think you are right about not sharing your baby name. Don't tell it to anyone unless you are sure of it and can handle any criticism. There's sure to be at least one person who hates it.I wanted to name my daughter Rose, but changed my mind when I got some negative remarks from family. I ended up naming her Beth. Then when her sister was born I named her Rose, but we didn't reveal the name until she was born. It worked out because she is definitely a little "Rosie", but I wish I hadn't been swayed by other people.

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