On growing old{er}

Do you think about getting older?

I do but not in what I am assuming is the typical way a woman my age thinks about it. I'll be 33 this year. For some reason 33 seems MUCH older than 32 but not really OLD altogether. For me, getting older is more of a focus on what is going on INSIDE my mind and body than what is going on on the outside.

Some women in their almost mid-thirties may be researching botox and liposuction. Some start crazy diets and exercise regimes that take up huge parts of their days. Others look for ways to cover their gray(ing) hair and wrinkles.

To me, overall, much of that is a waste of my precious life.

I'm not saying exercise and a healthy diet are bad or any of the other things either. I'm just saying, as women, there tend to be segments of our lives where we focus on them more than we should, and the older we get, the more frequent the bouts of "too much" occur.

No, I don't give too much thought to these things past getting my 30 minutes of exercise a day and eating my veggies.

When I think about getting older, I think about Doug's grandparents. To sit with them and listen to stories from their combined 180 years on this Earth is an amazing testament to a life well-lived.

They are full of stories of how they have been helped by others and helped others. How they have made it through tough times and times of bounty. They are known as good, generous, God-loving people. They will be always remembered as a good example to our kids on how to live your life to the fullest and in wise and longstanding ways.

When I think about getting older, I think about how I will be thought of at 90.

Will my grandkids see the same in me as I can see in the grandparents above? Will I be a reflection of what it means to be a GOOD and deep person and not a reflection of vain battles against aging and old age? When I get to 90 how much regret will I have over things not done or done too much? What kinds of things will I miss about being 33?

Will my kids be happily settled with kids of their own? Will they love God with a deeper fierceness than I have? Will they look fondly on the years of ours that overlapped?

These are the thoughts that swirl through my head when I think about getting older. These are the things that keep me up at night, praying and hoping to be an amazing reflection of a life well-lived. Pushing through the opinions that society at large tries to convince me to embrace about aging and instead breaking through and learning to grasp what matters and pursue ways to spend my precious life that won't leave me as a 90 year old full of regret.

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61 comments:

martha ellen said...

I tease my kids frequently (so frequently, infact, that I can anticipate an eye roll each time I do) that I have been 29 for 5 years. I know that I find that with each year I learn something new about myself and learn to love myself just a bit more than before. I am big blessed and each year I live gives me chances to experience more, love more, give my kids more kisses... I would say it's pretty awesome :) Also my 84 year old Grandmother is one of the wisest people I know and I only pray that someday my grandchildren will say the same about me !

Sarah Rachel said...

I'm okay with aging. I feel like I'm where I'm supposed to be in my life. I DO become more and more aware that the way I take care of myself is going to affect my family and how many years (and what quality of years) they get to spend with me. My mom is an amazing example of aging gracefully. She eats incredibly healthy but isn't afraid to sit down and eat one of her homemade cookies with us. She walks 3-4 miles a day and because of that she's able to keep up with her 4 grandsons. She has beautiful salt and pepper hair that she doesn't touch with hair dye and yet she still seems to be aging in reverse physically. She's the godliest woman I know and she spends her free time loving her family, serving the homeless, volunteering at church, building houses for Habitat, and reading SO many books. She makes me look FORWARD to aging. =)

Suzanne said...

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Sarah Rachel said...

My mom helps me to look forward to aging. She is beautiful with her un-dyed salt and pepper hair and athletic physique. She is the most godly woman I know and when she's not spending her time loving on her family, she is serving the homeless, volunteering for her church, building houses with Habitat for Humanity, or reading the gazillion books that she reads to further herself as a Christian and as a person. She eats incredibly healthy because she recognizes that God says our bodies are His temples but she's not afraid to indulge in one of her homemade chocolate chip cookies with us. She speed walks 4 miles every day so she has the energy and endurance to chase after her 4 grandsons. She makes aging an attractive thing. It means discipline, gaining wisdom, and the freedom to serve in more ways. =)

Angie said...

I'm not too concerned about getting older. It's just time passing. I'll do with it what I please, and hopefully enjoy most of it along the way.

The Perfect Trio said...

Getting older? Bring it! I feel better now than I did ten years ago!

Stasha said...

"To live is Christ and to die is gain." I try to remind myself that getting older is just getting a little closer to the time when I will finally be with Jesus. I want to spend my relatively short time here on earth doing what really matters--raising my kids to know and love the Lord and and giving glory to God in whatever I do.

stashacastillo(at)gmail(dot)com

Dawn said...

Sigh... My body and mindset changed so much after turning 35 and having 3 kids. I turned 37 this year and I have to just embrace every gray hair and wrinkle. They are my badges of honor :) Thanks for the post

RunnerGrl said...

I hope that getting older carries many benefits with it as well. :-)

Fab Kate said...

I have mixed feelings about aging. I'm already well past the point where I can deny I'm "old"... In 10 days I'll be 53. Funny thing is, I didn't feel truly alive until I hit 40, and it took most of my 40s to find out who I really was, and start developing my potential.

Yes, there are days I feel a twinge of sadness that the number of days ahead of me are less than those behind (after all, how many people do you know who are over 106?) , but at the same time I'm excited by the QUALITY of my days.

And while I can't pull an all nighter like I did in college, or have the energy to work 80 hours a week like I did in my late 20s, I find that my age has not restricted my life terribly much, in fact if anything it's given me the wisdom and experience that has freed me from some of the early concerns of my life.

Samantha Green said...

Getting older involves change, which bothers me.

jen said...

I feel sad sometimes about getting older. I feel like I missed out on some things and wish I could keep my youthful look. At the same time, I like the person I am becoming.

I am reminded of how my parents and grandparents said sadly that time was passing too fast. Feeling that they were right makes me determined to make the most of what is left.

Joy Morris said...

I turn the big 3-0 in less than a month. While I'm frustrated that my body doesn't respond to exercise and diet like it use to, I feel like I'm doing ok turning 30. My husband is 4 years older than me, so I'm always younger than him and I'm quite a few years younger than a lot of my close friends, so that always makes me feel like "the young one" no matter how old I am! I agree with what you said. It's more about how I'm living my life and enjoying it to the fullest no matter what age that is and less about what is happening physically.

joymorris13 at gmail dot com

Annette Doggett said...

I lost my mother when I was 19 to Breast Cancer, so I have always look at getting older like a gift. I try to live life to the fullest and enjoy today.
jedoggett@embarqmail.com

Kelly Massman said...

The main thing I don't like about getting older is that I seem to have more health problems.! Thanks for a chance to win and have a great day!
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This Life said...

I DO think about getting older, but not in an "aging" kind of way. More like a, "My oldest child is almost 11 and the top of her head comes up to my nose, I'm not old enough to have a child this tall or old" kind of way!

Amber Farnham said...

I just turned 30 at the first of the year. And it not that I'm thirty is that I have an 8 year old son that makes me feel older :)

Cori said...

I look forward to getting better (and wiser) with age :)

Jennipher said...

I am SO excited to get older. I feel like each day is a gift and I am so thankful to be here. Also, with every year that passes I am figuring out more and more who I am, what I do/don't like, what I stand for. My hopes and dreams are changing as I age and I just love it. I love that I gain a little bit more confidence with each birthday...that never hurts. :) My husband is 5 years older than me and I am always a little jealous of that. Ha!

jason.juliedulin said...

I didn't have 3 sweet babies at 28 so I wouldn't go back. 34 seems large next to my name, but who cares? It's all about how we feel on the inside.

Janel said...

Thank you Pfizer and thank you Crystal!

I find getting older somewhat frustrating and awesome at the same time. I love the wisdom that now all makes sense! I love remembering childhood moments now and realizing what my parents were trying to teach me or show me. I love that I can pass it on to young people but with my spin on it, based on my own experiences. Gravity is what frustrates me. I mention to my mother often, but jokingly how cruel that she did not prepare me enough for droopy breasts, sagging behind, the importance of moisturizer and sleeping on my back, not my stomach. but what I can say is that I am going to try my best to age the best way that I can by doing the things my mother did/does not. Like exercise, moderate weights, sunscreen, hats, good sleep, healthy food habits, etc. I know if I make the effort now it won't be an effort when I am 70. I am really enjoying the last of my forties, I am 48. I want to be my most beautiful at 50. I want to look younger than my age, but at the same time I want to age as gracefully as I can.

Amy said...

At times I hate the lines that I am getting but I love the fact that I have experienced a good life and my lines show this. Everyone has good & bad days.

Bunnyslady said...

I actually embrace the idea of getting older. It means that I am being blessed with the gift of more time with the ones I love. When I see a new wrinkle or spot, I try to remind myself that it is what makes me special. Sure, I have moments that make me feel like an old lady, but then I remember all of the wonderful events in my life and realize that if I wasn't getting older, I probably would have missed them or not appreciated them.

Leann said...

I guess its not so bad.. at 52 I have been happily married for 31 years and have a wonderful daughter that just graduated from college, with big ambitions! My husband and so some traveling and do what we want:) chefl@swbell.net

Frugal Mom from California said...

Getting older is something I think about more often lately. I don't like the aging of my body, but I feel like I make more right decisions now than ten years ago.

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Nanette Saylor said...

I love this thought: "how I will be thought of at 90?". I'm definitely adding that to my list of favorite journal prompts. enJOY! Nanette

Nanette Saylor said...

I love this thought: "how I will be thought of at 90?". I'm definitely adding that to my list of favorite journal prompts. enJOY! Nanette

Rebecca Graham said...

As long as my health is good, I won't mind getting older.

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Carolyn G said...

I see it as part of life and I am ready for it.

yuckybeans said...

With age comes wisdom....the wisdom to know that my body is going to creak a little more, my mind might take a bit longer to recall some facts, and that my ability to see things with greater perspective is something that I will continue to treasure. I look forward to some parts of aging and look back with fondness on times in the past when my youth allowed me to stay up past 9 o'clock on a regular basis!

yuckybeans said...

With age comes wisdom....the wisdom to know that my body is going to creak a little more, my mind might take a bit longer to recall some facts, and that my ability to see things with greater perspective is something that I will continue to treasure. I look forward to some parts of aging and look back with fondness on times in the past when my youth allowed me to stay up past 9 o'clock on a regular basis!

Karina said...

I'm excited to get older and experience more of life

karinaroselee at gmail dot com

Linh C. said...

I never minded letting people know my age...until now. I'm in my mid-40s and I wish time would slow down!

Kim said...

I'm not a fan of getting older...I'm only 26 and I feel like im still 21 (because I can legally drink) but at heart I feel like I'm 16. I know a bunch of people my age have kids and are married and I feel like I'm not old enough for that. By my age, my mom would have already had 2 kids and been married for 4 years. Not me!!! Getting older definitely scares me.

mama b said...

i feel great about getting older! i'm only 27, but i'm surrounded by people in their 70s and 80s who are lovely examples of aging in a beautiful, Godly way!

lv4thelord16 (at) yahoo.com

Henria O. said...

I don't mind aging. I'm constantly told that I look at least 10-20 years younger than I actually am. My two concerns...a healthy body and a healthy mind. I just hope I can retain those as I grow older.
sazzyfrazz at gmail dot com

Olive Cooper said...

I just turned 50 and then my rather snide 20 year old kiddo told me I was half a century old. That left me thinking for a minute.

Taylor {Sew Much Love} said...

I honestly didn't think about aging much until this year. Suddenly I'm feeling very close to 30 and a lot older! Now i'm feeling like i'd just like to stay where I am forever!

olympicsleeper(at)hotmail(dot)com

scmom (Barbara) said...

I turned 50 in June so I am definitely thinking about getting older. I feel older, which is hard. I look at my mother's mother, who is 95 and think I might have a long way to go! My father died when he was 42 so I have always felt it important to enjoy each day. Now I have outlived him and I am starting to feel like I should relax each day!

sjhkinnison said...

I turned 29 last month and have decided just to stick with 29 from this year on. My mother was 29 and holding for over 20 years! I am not afraid to age, I look forward to my kids being older, so that means I must get older with them. I just don't care for the number!

Jill C. said...

My family celebrates the anniversary of our 29th birthdays every year, instead of our real birthday :)

But seriously, I'm looking forward to getting older! I feel every year that passes gives me more knowledge about life, and more things to be thankful for!

Jessica said...

I would say that I am still very young,but my husband and I have been getting together with lots of older couples to gain advice and wisdom, and sometimes I wish I was older to just be as happy as they are!

jessicarwarfield at gmail dot com

BBB said...

Just turned 39...still feeling torn, but trying to get over myself and treat it like any other year :)

wigget said...

i dislike getting older with all the pains

Paula said...

I'm learnIng to embrace life and enjoy getting older.

Paula said...

I'm learning to embrace life with each passing year

Amy @ A Little Nosh said...

I'm not at peace with it quite yet, but I'm getting there.

alittlenosh AT gmail.com

Kasey said...

I am learning that wisdom comes withe getting older and I like it!

Melinda G said...

I have NEVER been one to lie about my age. I just turned 44 last week. I don't die my hair, use wrinkle creams or try to hide the fact that I need to wear glasses now. I think it is more beautiful to embrace your age and the changes that come with aging.

Sarah said...

I've always been a little apprehensive about aging... not because of the physical changes my body will undergo, but because of the constant reminder that time is passing. If I am aging, then that means my parents and other loved ones are aging. I can't imagine life without my family so it is in that regard that aging frightens me.

I try not to dwell on the fact that my parents are entering "senior" status but I have to admit it does bother me a bit. They aren't able to do what they once were able to do, and it is difficult for me to watch them struggle.

Getting older is a constant reminder that we are on this earth for a limited time. I try to squeeze every possible ounce of love I can from each moment I have with my parents and my brother. We live far away from one another and I know that it could be months before we're together again. As my age advances, I am learning to utilize the time I have to show others how much they mean to me.

Jamie Leigh Martin said...

So far, I'm excited about getting older; my birthday is at the end of the month. I'm still young, but I'm trying to make healthy choices, so I will live longer!

alison said...

The older I get, the clearer it becomes to me that age is nothing more than a number. I always imagined I'd feel different at 21, or at 30 or at 40, but the truth is... I'm still the same me I've always been. The mirror may show more wrinkles or more sagging in places I never considered (I swear my earlobes are starting to droop!), but the me inside feels the same. Each year brings something new, and I look forward to many more years of learning, loving, and living!

Melinda said...

Looking forward to retiring and seeing the world

kellyr78 said...

I feel uneasy. However, I hope for the best and realize that I cannot sit around dwelling on growing old... although today is my birthday!
kellywcuATyahooDOTcom

Kerry said...

Uneasy - that's how I feel!
nuthouse(at)centurytel(dot)net

Betty C said...

I'm uneasy about the financial future, wondering if things will be okay when I can no longer work. But I'm still occasionally surprised to realize that I'm already old. My dad was just my age (72) when he passed away although my mom lived to be 93. So I'm hoping to have another 15 or 20 years ahead of me.

willitara [at] gmail [dot[ com

Linda said...

I never gave much thought to getting older until this past year. I turned 56, seems odd to say that. I have always been aware how quickly time passes and even more so now. Change is hard for me and a little scarier for me this year as I lost my job and have no health insurance. Hopefully something will come along sooner than later so that I can be less concerned for my financial future. At this stage of my life, my grandchildren are the brightest light. I wish, as most of us do on occasion wish I could go back and relive some of my life when my children were young. Those times go way TOO fast.!

Linda said...

I turned 56 this year and this is the 1st year I actually started to feel "old". I am concerned for my financial security, I never thought that at this age I would be out of work and looking for a job. I've always been aware how quickly time passes, but once there were grandchildren it is ever more present. They are the light in my life! I wish, as others must, that I could go back and relive moments with my children because they went so fast!

Linda said...

I turned 56 thus year and this is the first year I felt "old". I never thought at this age I would be unemployed and looking for a new job. I am concerned for my financial future. I was always aware how time passes so quickly, but more so after having grandchildren. They are the light in my life! I often wish, as others must, that I could relive the time I had with my children because it all went by in a blink! I miss those times!

Anash said...

i feel good about it. as long as i am getting old, it means im still living, and to me ::wink: thats a good thing
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Damon Tolles said...

My aunt that turned 40 underwent liposuction. She was not large or anything but she says that she did it to get back to dating after they split with her husband. She says that it was not much of a bother as long as you knew what you we're getting into and you know that you were in good hands. She says that she underwent lipo in perth, and she was treated right.

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