a bushel and a peck

I have a lot of random thoughts in my head at the moment. So stand by while they all trickle out so that I have some hope of sleeping well tonight.

Firstly, thank you ALL for all of the comments and emails.  You have all given me SO much to think about and process and pray for.  There is no way I can respond to all of the emails and comments but I wanted you to know that I read each and every word and it's all going on my plate to think about.  I really appreciate your input and assurance that homeschooling CAN be done in a very GOOD way. 

The bottom line is that I am willing to do whatever I think is best for my children and this wouldn't be the first time that I've done something to protect them from something that people think I am being ridiculous over. 

Case in point...today I ran a marathon of errands and my boys were in tow...and good as gold for the most part.  I rarely take them on more than 1-2 errands at once and today we hit six places.  By the time we got to the grocery store, our last stop, we were all trying our best to get done what needed to be done so that we could get home. 

We got our groceries and got in line. 

I start fumbling around for the key thing-a-ma-bob that gets you the deals in the store and I happened to look over to see where Moses was and found him eye to eye with a magazine featuring a nearly NUDE Kim Kardashian (I DO NOT care if that name is misspelled).  I seriously did a double take because I thought she WAS nude.  I immediately turn the magazine backwards in it's place.  The cashier is still standing there with her hand out for my key thing-a-ma-bob...now with an attitude after seeing what I had done.  The trashy magazine was not harmed and there was no one behind me in line. 

Moses proceeds with questions about why he can't look at that magazine?  I kindly ask the cashier to proceed with scanning while I looked for my STUPID money saving key chain.  I give Moses a brief explanation about how ladies should cover themselves and it was not appropriate for anyone, let alone a four year old, to see a woman he is not married to that naked.
The cashier looks at me and ROLLS HER EYES and lets out a huff.  Basically mocking me.  
Moses of course continues to ask questions and we continue our discussion on the matter because I believe that, if possible, you address an issue right away before it has time to take root.  The cashier's attitude is tangible.  I did not care.  I was never rude to her but I was not going to let her treatment of ME to effect how I parented my boys. 

I am that mom who turns the magazines featuring soft porn backwards on the stand.  I am the mom that refuses to walk past Victoria's secret with my boys (any of them) because of the practically nude photos in the windows because I feel it is my job to form gentlemen from little boys and to do what I can to not give the enemy a footstool into their minds.  I am very protective over what they see and fill their minds with. 

The point is...there was an issue (even if that moment was minor), I had a gut reaction in how I was supposed to address it with him, and regardless of how snotty my cashier was going to get with me, I was going to parent my child the way I felt was right.

And I want that gut reaction with home schooling. 
And I won't care who gets snotty with me about it. 

I (Doug and I) just want to know that I am doing right by Him.  

I appreciate you.  Thanks for sharing. 

xo

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18 comments:

Risa said...

I completely agree with your gut reaction and commend you on the teaching of your boys regardless of any reactions of others. You know the Bible says that we will be persecuted, ridiculed, etc. Mostly for sharing the Gospel but also for trying to live holy lives and teaching our children to do the same. All for Gods glory. Keep it up and keep.praying. He will guide you as you know and show throughout your blog:)

angela said...

Good for you. Because no matter what, there will always be people who give you an attitude about how you parent. Especially when your actions point toward God. Hurray for you. And so lucky for your little guys.

annifranni said...

I am also that mom who turns the magazines backwards for my son and daughter. My daughter doesn't need half dressed women for role models, and my son doesn't need to think that those are the kind of women he should seek out. I strive to protect their eyes, ears, and hearts as much as I possibly can. Kudos to you for doing the same.

miamihoney said...

You have the best attitude towards being a good mommy. Awesome!

Lizelle said...

You've just described my my number 1 parenting philosophy: Do what's right for you and your family. There's always going to by people that disagree, but that's their issues - not mine!

Emilie said...

Good for you, Crystal!

Melissa said...

You did a great thing, You answered your son's questions instead of shushing him. You addressed the issue right there. You were a good example to the cashier, even given her reaction. You were a witness, and that's what we're called to be.

The Perfect Trio said...

Go you!!! You did the right thing for sure!!!!

Homeschooling is something we tried for one year before moving on a military post. The schools on post are amazing so we decided to put our boys in school. But, you better believe when we get home we'll either go back to homeschooling or move to a better area.

derekcindyterp said...

GOOD FOR YOU! You are a great example not only to your children, but also a light to those the Lord puts in your path. :)

Karen S said...

I have been thinking about this since I read it last night, and I would like to respectfully submit, and with love and support in my heart -- that from your account of the event, I imagine the cashier may have felt judged by your words and actions. I totally support your right to control what your child is exposed to. However others of good conscience make different decisions. So please consider that she may have been reacting from a place of feeling attacked rather than from feeling like attacking you.

Jeanette said...

You go girl! You have a big job to do in a world that has gotten off balance. I wish more parents would take the job of parenting serious. Good luck! You're doing a good job.

Krystle... said...

You go! I had honestly never thought to flip the magazines. I, myself, have become so used to that kind of stuff and have stopped noticing. You've reminded me to pray for sensitivity. Plus, you have no idea what kind of seed you may have planted in the mind of the cashier by explaining that to Moses in front of her. FAN-tastic!

CJ said...

I have a daughter and a son. I homeschooled them for 13 years. My daughter did go to public school for K and 1st and then I found out about homeschooling. When at the store I ALWAYS sent them on through the line to wait near the bagging station. That way they did not have the opportunity to read headlines and look at pictures, both of which are so inappropriate. I did not purchase any such magazines for our home. There was no reason for ME to read People, Glamour, Cosmo, if my children couldn't read them or see them lying about the house. My daughter would get American Girl magazines when at 'that' age. She now gets Rachel Ray magazines and she recently (at 21.5 years of age) bought her first PEOPLE magazine that was a special COUNTRY issue. She said there were no ads and such, just stories written by the different country stars themselves. The magazines that I buy are for quilting, crafting and cooking. :D
Stand strong, it is a tough world out there.

Katy @ Live Laugh Love Craft said...

You are so awesome! You totally inspire me to be a better Mom. Love, love, love this post!

Also, I put you in a recent blog post of mine:

http://www.livelaughlovecraft.com/2011/09/my-favorite-blogs.html

ZanBryDesigns said...

Crystal I too have felt like you with the magazines and the 20 questions that come with seeing something like that. I too am trying to raise a gentleman, but I have also got to raise a young lady too. If you need more information on homeschooling I can ask a friend of mine that is homeschooling her 4 kids where she gets her school info from.

Jen said...

I too turn magazines and push the kids through! I have been in the exact situation and the lost who roll their eyes and laugh or sigh are usually full of guilt or are jealous because they don't have the patience it takes to stop and teach...and in this world it is not about teaching and showing love and patience, sadly it is all but that. So I commend you for holding your tongue on this cashier...she/he needed to see your light in a dark world even though she persecuted you in a way! You are a blessing to your boys!

ragamuffinbeauties said...

Amen, amen, hallelujah amen. LOVE this post, love it! Pursue His heart for them always, Momma! Eye rolling eye side, you still planted a seed in her snotty heart too, even better! Keep it up...SO good!

Ags said...

Right on and fabulous! It seems you handled this situation the way you should have...according to your convictions. :) I have 7 children, half of them now grown, and you described in this post a typical day out for me with my kids, ha! And I'm right with you on the Victoria Secret thing. I went into the Victoria Secret store at our mall, ages ago when my older ones were younger, to complain because their practically nude model ads are NOT inside the store, but OUTSIDE the store and right across from a play area in our mall. They just smiled and had me fill out a complaint card. Around that time I also went into a mall art gallery because they had nude paintings in the windows. I was polite and the salesperson was also polite and took my complaint, but nothing ever happened. That's when I decided I wasn't taking my kids to the mall anymore. We do what we have to do because those precious hearts that have been entrusted to us are ours to preserve. You did good. :)

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