*a warning to gaggers...i talk about vomit in this post*
some parenting lessons i seem to need to learn every so often.
one of those, in this house, is to not make my kids eat things they don't want or like.
it always, always ends in vomit.
i know, i know. that sounds like a terrible parenting philosophy. but hear me out.
i have gaggers. three of them. i'm not one of the three. both of my boys have been gaggers since birth. with Moses, since the beginning of his eating life he would gag. if i was feeding him apples and peas and switched between the two without him knowing about it...he would gag.
finger too far down his throat...gag.
seeing someone else gag...gag.
a fleck of dust in his mouth...gag.
being forced to eat anything...whether he likes it or not...gag.
laughing too hard...gag.
running too much...gag.
i kid you not.
and before you think it, it's not an act. it's a genuine "thing". it has always been there. they inherited it from someone whose testimony i can trust.
every time my kids get sick...there is vomit involved...whether or not there are stomach issues involved in the sickness...the sheer act of being ill flips the gag switch.
if aaron starts to gag we pretty much have to RUN moses out of the room. or else.
i think my niece threw up for the first time at two. years. moses was at two. days.
i am a pro-haz mat cleaner. doug bathes and i'm the clean up crew.
in general my boys eat really healthy. they eat a pretty good breakfast and a pretty good lunch. and generally that is because those things i make to cater to what they want.
dinner is something else. in general our rule is, eat what is served you, or don't eat until breakfast.
and that rule works well until i get in the way. and every time i get in the way...it ends in vomit.
and then i get annoyed at myself for throwing aside a really good family policy because deep down i am worried that someone will hear that my kids rarely eat much of a dinner and label me a failure as a parent. but even further down deeper than that...i KNOW that they will not go to college living on a diet of oatmeal, yogurt and milk.
to me...it's way more more important to have a happy, peaceful family time at meals. i care more about what goes in their hearts than what goes in their mouths...because i know that they eat healthy for the other two meals.
i know that in general they eat well and are healthy kids.
even if the only vegetable that Moses will eat willingly is a cucumber.
this is my reminder to stick to what I KNOW works for MY family and to not be influenced my the "other mom's phenomena".
yes, it is great that your kids will eat a 100% raw diet, or that they love sushi, or that you only eat organic, hand caught grapes (because picking them would be unfair to the grapes life cycle). i truly love that your kids love vegetables or beg for whole grains.
but i am telling you, you put a couscous on my boys' tongue, you better be wearing a plastic parka.