what i wish. num 2.

Welcome to "What I wish I could tell you"...an anonymous platform for bloggers to share what they don't feel free to share on their own blogs.  If you have a story/thought/ache/hurt/feeling/secret/prayer request you want to get out, feel free to email me at ricracandpompoms @ gmail.com.  You will remain anonymous to all but me unless you choose otherwise. 
I have several in the series lined up ready to go...what is amazing to me is how I can relate to so many, including today's, and at the end of the day, I really believe that the simple act of knowing you are not alone can go a long way to healing in itself. 

The author of this entry has chosen to stay anonymous.  Say hello to anon #2: 


You have no idea how close you are coming to becoming our father.  You treat your beautiful wife horribly, expecting her to do everything for you despite her being in a wheelchair.  Your daughter doesn't know the true love of a good, healthy father/daughter relationship.  If you continue to go down this route, you WILL lose your family and die sad and alone like he did.  There is nothing in this world more important than the relationships you have with your wife & child, don't continue the cycle & ruin this.  Swallow your pride, seek out help, accept that while you may be his son that you DON'T have to become him.

Want a turn to share?  Email me at ricracandpompoms @ gmail.com. 
Feel free to comment and encourage or just relate and assure.

what i wish. num 1.

Welcome to the first installment of "What I wish I could tell you"...an anonymous platform for bloggers to share what they don't feel free to share on their own blogs.  If you have a story/thought/ache/hurt/feeling/secret/prayer request you want to get out, feel free to email me at ricracandpompoms @ gmail.com.  You will remain anonymous to all but me unless you choose otherwise.

The author of this entry has chosen to stay anonymous.  Say hello to anon #1: 


What I wish I could tell you...is that the biggest source of pain in my life is that my entire family has nothing to do with me and my children.  My biggest source of grief is when I hear about a friends mother coming to pick her children up for the weekend so that she and her husband can reconnect.  
I am SO jealous.  I never have help like that.

  The biggest ache in my heart is not having my family love my children like they should...people who want to help and be there...who would put themselves aside, if only for a visit.  My biggest hurt is missing what others have...a happy healthy family(outside of our own family unit)...help with childcare...having parents/grandparents/aunts/uncles/etc.  I can't talk about this openly on my own blog because I know they read...but not because they are interested in seeing how we are doing...nope, just to gather fuel for their fire of why they have nothing to do with us.  To justify their actions.  So I never mention them because there is nothing to mention.     

My kids have no idea who my parents are.  Anytime we come across a photo of them here or there no light bulb goes off in my kids minds about who they are.  None of my family has made any sort of effort to get to know my kids or be part of their life.  Most of them have never seen my kids in person. And they live right down the road.  The reason? Because it's not on their terms.  Because we have chosen to live a lifestyle that is free from (voluntary) drama and (voluntary) pain and (voluntary) strife.  Because we choose to not participate with their unhealthy choices.   

The only time they reach out to us is to hurt us with their actions.  
To try to drag us down and "get us".

And while it makes me weary at times...in the end I know it is best.   And really...day to day it doesn't bother me.  Because I am happier and healthier and closer to God than ever.  And I am praying for the Lord to get to them and have His way. 

The only time it really gets to me is when I want a break from my kids and wish I had family to call for help.  And even that I am praying for God to free me from.  To you that may sound cold...to me it's the Peace that passes all understanding when you have made the right decision.     


Want a turn to share?  Email me at ricracandpompoms @ gmail.com. 
Feel free to comment and encourage or just relate and assure.

what i wish...

Just wanted to share that I have had a GREAT response to the idea of doing a "What I wish I could tell you" series...so it's a go.  I can't wait to share and start healing for whomever chooses to open up. 
I am already praying that this series will be a healing start to all who participate or read...that sharing and relating can point us in the direction we need to go...that it can open doors and heal hurts and help us to start fresh where need be.  

In case you need some inspiration or clarification about the topics I am talking about you can visit Rocks in My Dryer.  She does a terrific series called "What I'd like for you to know". The only difference is that she does it openly...and I am choosing to offer the safety of anonymity.  And topics are in no way limited...this a real blog...chock full of real life.  My hope being...the author can get it all out there...still get feedback from bloggers/readers all over and get on with the healing!  Of course if you would like your identity disclosed you can do that too.

So if you are heavy with something you need to share...then pray about it...and email me if it's right for you.  (ricracandpompoms @ gmail.com)  And know that I will be praying over each and every hurt...


julia project num. 8

 I'm a bit embarrassed at how long it has taken me to get the next Julia project done...summer really just slipped by a little too fast for me...and here we are around the corner from November...and I am on number 8...but if you have been following you will notice that I never put a time frame on this project...and that is for good reason...I know me. :)  
This project is for Casey...who sent me the yard and requested the "Flouncy Bag". 
The pattern was easy enough...except that one of the pieces called for an oval that was 4 by 10in...and didn't give you a template or pattern...which I thought was odd...and annoying.  But the rest of the bag came together easily...and I think the result is cute!

I hope you like it Casey! 

You can see the rest of the Julia projects HERE.

moses' room.

 A few of you asked about Moses' room a couple of posts ago...so I thought I would take the opportunity to document it...
 He has the brightest room in the house...and has the only room that we have not painted since we moved in...
 all we have done is to paint a stripe over a girly stencil.
 Almost everything is either from Ikea, Target or made by me...
 All of the signs are from Doug's room growing up...the bed and bedding is from Ikea.
 Rug on the floor is from Ikea, dresser from Target...flag of Norway. :)
 Bed buddies.

 This is by the door...map of the states done in license plates...cross stitch done for Doug by a family member...
 License plates that I made into a single huge art piece.  Doug promises that he has never stolen a single sign or license plate...so they have all been come by honest. 
 His room is one of my favorites...because it is the easiest to clean...EVERYTHING has a place and there is minimal clutter.  Aside from making the bed and picking up a few stickers...I really didn't have to clean up much to take these photos. :)
The painting was done for Moses by a friend...its a sky writer doing Moses' name...clock is from a yard sale...1, 2, 3 bins are from Ikea...so is the paper roll.   The bins hold crayons, scissors and paper.
 This GIANT frame is a super clearance from from Target...it's one of those "sign here" things for weddings...it used to hang in our living room but I was tired of it...so it got a nice M and some photos of some of Moses' favorite things and memories.  The two art pieces on the right are also super clearance finds. :)
On my to-do list is to paint this room...I am thinking a pale grey...you can't tell from the photos but it really needs it.  Even still...it's a happy room for a happy boy.  

i love words.

 I have a love of words.  My home is full of them.  Prints, artwork and everything covered in words and phrases that are meant to set my mind straight and remind me of the way I should be thinking.  Some of my favorites are from Studio Mela and say things like "Be happy for this DAY is your life"...we have a custom made sign that says "Do what you have to so you can do what you want to" which more days than not reminds me to get my bum in gear. 

Maybe it's because I'm a visual person/learner.  When I was in college it was enough for me to show up, watch the slides of notes and comes test time I just had to read them over.  

Maybe it's because I love to read.  I currently have a huge stack of books on my bedside table. 

Whatever the means or reasons...I LOVE words in my home. 
Forever ago I found this tutorial at Little Blue Boo and fell in love.  I made it that day in my head and it has been living there ready to come out ever since.  Finally, months later via my Cricut and some spray paint it came to life. 
And I love it.  It reminds me of some of the reasons I am in love with the Lord. 
He is my redeemer and washes me clean. 
He is my God, there is no other.
He is a wonderful counselor and listens to my every worry.
He is the only perfect Father ever. 
He is the first and the last and my everything. 

I love having this hanging in my home where I can see it all the time and be reminded.


done and done.

 One dozen little owls for my favorite little four year old.
 I finished just in time to fill them with popcorn and candy corn.
Moses was delighted that his mom made something for his school friends.  
How many more years do you think I can get away with that? 


yo ho ho...a pirates party for mo.

a pirate party at moses' request...
 At least the cutest pirate I have ever seen...
...who is somehow four (at least he will be on Tuesday).
I made each boy a pirate type shirt...and each got an eye patch and a bandanna.
Pirate cupcakes...
...make a happy pirate.
This one we dubbed yo hoho! :)

We had a treasure map for Captain Stinky Pete (aka Moses)...to lead him to his hidden treasure.
First stop on the treasure hunt...

There was gold along the way to keep him on track.
Found it!
Checking out the loot..."Pirates Booty" popcorn, cars, chalk...
Singing happy birthday...the first time in his life that he didn't plug his ears for it! 
 At one point Moses said "This is the BEST BIRTHDAY EVER!"
 Made this mom happy.
Hoho was just pleased to have a cupcake. :)
I really can't believe that he is FOUR.  It seems like just yesterday that we brought him home from the hospital...sat him on the coffee table, still in his carrier...and said "Now what?". 

I'm afraid to blink...time goes by so fast. :)

feeling brave.

 While perusing one of my favorite places...etsy...I stumbled upon Cutting Edge Stencils. I was immediately smitten by their enormous selection of HUGE, funky, stencils.  I don't know about you...but when I think of stencils I usually think "country"...or 90's for some reason.  Not the case in the selection of this Etsy shop.  I asked Doug what he thought when he got home...to which he responded "You've already decided haven't you?".  

Well, yes.  And I couldn't wait for my stencil to come in the mail.  But first I had to paint my living room...you know, for a nice new canvas. :) 
 Then it was time to be brave...to trust the vision I had in my head for wall awesomeness.  I turned on Netflix...and about an hour later I fell in love with a wall. 
 Allow me to be a commercial for a moment...only because I LOVED the stencil...it was sturdy...and since I got a little level with my stencil it was EASY.  Their directions were easy to understand and follow, even if you have never stenciled.  The edges were sharp and clear.   And cleaning the stencil-the part I dreaded the most- was as easy as running it under water. 

And the result? 
Stunning...if I do say so myself.  It makes the whole room cozy and warm and beautiful.
  For the color I used some of the "Crystal Aqua" (from Valspar-cause I know I will get asked) to tie it all together. :) I only did the one wall for now...but I am tempted to keep going around. 

Being brave paid off...don't you think? It also added a slew of new projects to my list...new curtains...enormous wall art...etc. :)

Aaaaaand I loved it so much...I am going to give one away soon...stay tuned for your very own opportunity to BE BRAVE. :) 


P.S. Click on the photos for a better view of awesome. :) 
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