My name is Crystal and I don't like babies.
OK, maybe that's a little too harsh. I like babies but not enough to have another. I have no plans to have another. I don't want another. I don't need another. And I am OK with that.
So why do I get a dirty look when I tell people this? Like there is something wrong with me only having two little boys in my life. They don't NEED a sister as some people claim.
I don't need to have a Miriam to round out my mini-herd. It doesn't help that more of my "two kids" friends than I can count have announced that they are pregnant with number three.
The basis for our decision to only have two? We feel it. If God wants us to have more He has not communicated this to us. And you know what? We are completely happy and content with that.
Here are my completely selfish reasons for being thankful that I no longer have "babies" and why we only want two children.
I like sleep. Babies like to deprive you of this.
I like communication. Babies are terrible at verbal communication.
I like to travel with (relative) ease. Babies are terrible travel companions.
I hate carrying a diaper bag. And buying diapers.
We like not being out numbered. And I don't want a bigger car.
We want to pay for college for each of the boys. This gets harder with each child we add.
And the biggest reason?
The older my boys get the better of a mother I feel like I can be to them. I love babies but I don't feel like I can give them my best work. I don't do my best on four hours of sleep. I like to be able to say "What's wrong?" and have real words come back to me.
With every day that my kids get older I feel more and more competent in the mommy field.
Don't get me wrong...I loved the baby stage...or at least most of it. Tiny baby parts, quiet late night feedings...the smell of a baby...the sweet coos and squishy baby legs. All great things. We don't regret the late nights or the diaper changes or changes to our schedule to accommodate naps. We loved and love our babies. But it is OK for us to stop here.
Two and we are through.
Please tell me that we are not the only ones?