define: ridiculous.

This is around the corner from my house.  
That is a duplex.  The line down the middle goes all the way down to the street.

Almost...but not quite as ridiculous as people insisting that I am not entitled 
to having and sharing my opinion on my very own blog. 

You will never read a purposely hurtful word here.  But that does not mean that I will not share my opinions.  About my life.  And my experiences.  It is after all MY blog. 

Because I share a like doesn't mean that you have to like it.

I am not a blog that tries to paint a picture that EVERYONE will love all the time.  I paint my own.  I paint a real picture because that is what I would want from others.  If I tried to avoid topics that would hurt anyone because of some individual pain then I could never talk about:
my children (because some don't have them), my husband (because some don't have great ones), my successful business, my house, my struggles, my hurt, my dreams, the fun new things I bought or the things I want, the things I make, that I want to move, that I get to stay at home, that my husband has a great job, that people hurt my feelings, that I hate where I live, that I don't want more children, that I want a craft room...I couldn't talk about my experiences or growths ever. 

It would be a pretty boring place to read and visit.  If you want that read the dictionary.

If you like real and sometimes different and sometimes the same...sometimes relate-able and sometimes not...then welcome and know that I would never intentionally be ugly.  I am accountable to too many people to ever be purposefully hurtful here. 

And I stand by my belief, that anything worth saying is worth signing your name to.  

That includes comments.  


Alissa said...

Love this. I'm beginning to wish blogs had a like button so I could simply say, "I like this post." You are right on, Sistah.

Terri-Lynn said...

I think real is really really good. Thanks for really sharing your reality :)

Kelly said...

Well said! (I don't comment here often but I am a faithful reader.)
That line of leaves makes my heart sad. Life is too short for such petty-ness. (i don't think that's a word but you know what i mean!)

Stacia said...

I haven't been reading your blog THAT long, but I really enjoy it.
I'm sorry people leave rude comments, I think you're wonderful.

nikihas3 said...

Good for you!

Ky said...

I wouldn't be still following you and reading your posts all the time if you weren't real Crystal. How dare anyone even think to have a go at you for what you write!
Go on! Reveal yourselves, mean, blog commenting people!
It IS your blog! You just keep doing what your doing girl. That's why we all love you so much!

Unknown said...

I am still shocked every time I hear about commenters criticizing bloggers writing their OWN opinions on their OWN blogs. They must have such unhappy lives to think it is okay to be so rude and anonymous.

Go somewhere else, you miserable mean people! It's okay to follow that old adage if you don't have anything nice to's pretty easy to keep your mouth shut once you practice that!

Anonymous said...

I don't always agree with the way you feel about things. And sometimes I think well maybe I should try and change the way you feel about those things. Then I think well this is your blog and your entitled to feel and say what you want. People just need to think before they respond to things. If I feel strongly enough about it, I will respond to it. And even though I don't always feel the same way you do, I still keep coming back because I do like the rest of what you have to say =)

Ivy's Mom

Biz said...

I am so with you on this! It seems like I started a blog to write about what is going on in my life only to have friends start reading it and asking me if I was mad at them, etc...I just want to write freely. If people don't like it they don't have to read it :) AMEN! I love your blog!

derekcindyterp said...

I don't understand some people! They are the one snooping in on your personal life (as are we all, isn't it great! :D LOL) So I think they should be greatful to be allowed to be nosy, and should keep mean comments to themselves. I may or may not always agree with everything either, but I sure enjoy reading this blog. :D And for the record, so far I think I agree with pretty much everything you stand for! :D Thanks for sharing a REAL life!

Anonymous said...

All I will say is, Yes, this is the blog that you designed, and yes, you are able to say whatever your want (Freedom of Speech really is great). But I think that if you are going to put the Lord's name on your blog and give Him credit for certain things, you need to remember that you are HIS. If we always live a life that is about ME, we will never give Him the glory He deserves. It's okay to give your opinion (I'm very opinionated myself). But I sometimes feel that your opinions are so selfish. And your friends are selfish. Real friends wouldn't keep saying, "You go, girl!" "This is YOUR blog!" "Say whatever you want. Because this life is all about YOU." I think it's possible to voice your opinion and tell about your good days and also have a dose of grace and love. Be happy for the things you have been blessed with. When you are upset about something, rest in the peace you have because of Christ, not in some feeling that you deserve to be so anger and, forgive my old lady term, such a sour puss. You have a lot to be thankful for. You seem to be such a creative person, and we, as your readers, would love to read about the great things happening in your life, not all the crappy things(because we ALL could fill up a really big blog about that stuff, but we choose to use our freedom of speech to be encouraging and a picture of Christ's love). Write with the knowledge that you are His and that your blog could be such a witness to our lost world.

Anna Marie

Crystal said...

Well, Anna Marie, I think it is safe to say that you know very little about me. I share the good the bad and the ugly. Like it or leave it. God does not call us to be all sunshine and roses. I REGULARLY share all the great in my life...amazingly enough THAT is when I am most criticized for being SELFISH as you would say.

I would say that 99 out of 100 people enjoy seeing the good and the bad because it shows that I am human just like everyone else. This is MY journey and my record of where I have been and how far I have come. I share both TO SHOW God's glory throughout my life and how he is working in me.

But thanks for pointing out how very selfish I am. That totally makes my day.

Jill M said...

Stay strong Crystal & keep on with the good, the bad & the ugly. I think we can all relate in some way or another, and like you said, Like it or Leave it.

Have a wonderful blessed day!!


Anonymous said...

Okay, fine.

"You go, girl! You are awesome!"

(Is that the kind of comment you were looking for?)

Now I understand why you're struggling with friendships...

Anna Marie

Amanda said...

Here's the thing- you totally have freedom to speak how you feel, its how you feel. Whether its sad, angry, selfish, or selfless; no one can dispute your personal feelings. What's it to anyone else if you don't like where you live- you are the only one responsible for what you say.
On the other hand, when you publicly display your opinion on the internet, its open for other's opinion. Just like a newspaper columnist is open for people to send letters to the editor, people comment back to you about how your particular post hit them that particular day. And no one has to give names. That's the part about blogs that's tough- people begin to see into your life and feel comfortable conversing with you about it.
I would say this- pray before you read your blog comments. That God would filter what you read that day. Then if something hits you in a way you feel like your toes are being stepped on, you can reflect and see what, if anything, God wants you to change or grow in your life. And if something negative rolls off your back, you know God didn't intend that for you.
Be Blessed!

Kristi said...

I'm just curious, why do people choose to read a blog that makes them so upset? Can't they move on? And as for the picture above. I think it is wrong to make judgements unless you know the whole story. Maybe the person who rakes the leaves only had so much time to do so because they want to spend more time with their mom in a nursing home, or to have time to make 5 meals to bring to housebound individuals or... who knows. Perhaps they hired someone and that person only got paid for that half. I don't rake my neighbors leaves (though we have detached houses). It is quite a grueling process for me as I have a bad back. Last time I did it I also tore some of the skin off of my hand between my thumb and index finger. I guess I'm just trying to say "Don't judge a book by its cover." With that, I'm not sure how that relates to this post. I am just envious that you have so many people who comment on your blog. Who pay attention to you. I'm don't feel negatively towards you at all because of this, just saying that I'd be thankful for that if I were you. With the good comes some bad. I don't know why you have been "blessed" with so much bad??? I guess you have to prayerfully handle that in your own way. As one of my best friends tells me in tough times, God cares more about your character than your comfort. Best of luck. Please know this comment is given lovingly.

sweet southern inspiration said...

I couldn't agree more. I once wrote a post about something that I felt really strongly about and I swear as I was writing it I never thought it would upset people the way it did, the whole reason I was writing it was because MY feelings had been hurt and I was explaining myself, however people took it personal and consequently some people have shut me out... all because of a blog post. It is entitled "Unsolicited Advice".
Anyway, I agree, and I love your blog, and I am a follower! So you might upset some people but you don't bother me! Lol!

The Byron Family said...

wow anna marie. Are you having a bad day? Because you just ruined mine and this isn't even my blog, or my words, or my actions you are commenting on. Didn't your mother teach you that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all. No one is forcing you to read this blog.
Crystal, I enjoy your blog. I check it at least twice a day. I have never felt like you are a bad person, selfish, unloving or anything. I have just admired you as a person. I think you are fantastic, even when you are having a bad day. Keep going strong, and don't let the petty haters put you down. :)

Emma Kay said...

I think the house in the picture looks cute and personally I think the people living there were going for that artsy, symmetrical look. I don't think it was done in a negative way at all.

Pickles In My Shoe said...

You have chosen to give us a glimpse of what goes on in your daily life...something I find difficult to do because I'm more of a private person. Sharing how you are feeling - good or bad- is being transparent, something again that I struggle with because I want everyone to see the good...and because I don't like to put myself in a vulnerable position. You have chosen to be real and vulnerable, thank you for that. I'm sure there is much more that goes on in your daily life that doesn't make it into your blog...we only see glimpses. I don't care who you are, not everyone can be "up" everyday. We're human. And personally, I feel intimidated by people that never have a bad me they are unapproachable. We all go through seasons in our lives - I've been there. I was in a situation similar to you - I didn't like where I lived, I felt alone (but I did love my church). That was a very lonely time for me, but it was also one of the richest times of my life spiritually, and looking back I wouldn't trade it for anything. So hang in there - you'll find just what it is that God has for you. Blessings~

Alison Gibbs said...

Crystal I think that keeping it real including the good bad and ugly is what it should be like.
There are too many out there pretending that they live in a 'perfect little world' - the only ones they are fooling are themselves,

Katy {and Kahler} said...

goodness. i read this yesterday and didn't comment. now im back to comment. :)

thank you. thank you for being real. i may not always agree with you or like what you have to say, but this is YOU. this is your journey to finding yourself and discovering your worth in the Lord. its a journey. we're never there. thanks for sharing your journey with us. sometimes i read blogs written by people who i seem to be perfect and feel really bad about my weaknesses/shortcomings and feel even worse when i share those on my blog.

i just barely understand what it's like when a stranger criticizes you (my blog is so much smaller than yours) and it hurts. deep. please, sister, let those things go. keep your head up.

here's to being real... and blogging about it. :)

Crystal @ Ordinary Days said...

Honestly, I LOVE your blog. Real blogs are my favorite. I love that you are real. Keep it up!! :)

Tulsa County Courthouse said...

I think real is really really good. Thanks for really sharing your reality :)

Mary said...

I enjoy your blog, but you continually blog about the negative opinions of others. You are certainly entitled to your opinion, but the constant elaboration of this is quite repelling.

Ky said...

Oh, pish posh Anna Marie! Life's hard enough without having the negatives that come from comments of complete strangers. Of course we are going to encourage Crystal. That's what we should be doing. And if there's something we don't agree with, well there are loving and diplomatic ways of saying so without being a hater and outright hurtful. The end!

Autumn Du Pré-Moore said...

I don't read this blog EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.OF.THE.WEEK.SOMETIMES.MORE.THAN.ONCE.A.DAY because it's lollipops and daisies everyday. I read it because it's a real life timeline of you, your family, your work, your creativity, your successes, your not-so-successes-but-not-failures-either. I've seen the word REAL in so many of these comments and, I have to use it again. In an age of plastic people, fake attitudes, and not being our authentic selves, a little {alot} of REAL is just what we need.


Julie W said...

Some people *do not* want anyone else on their property and can get really weird about it. It's quite possible the raker had already had a negative prior experience and chose not to "invade" on another's property. Maybe they even once raked the leaves for their neighbors and were admonished for it. Just looking beyond the visual. :)

Just Sew Trish said...

I just want to tell you I love your blog. I love what you say and share. I know it gets hard when those that don't get it, have to be all up in your face about it. Most times "they" are so worried that no one is feeding their self-centered needs, that half the time "they" have no idea what they want. Being petty has just consumed them, just like the duplex.
I get it. I face it too. Amen sista! You are doing good.

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