on Eve {and women}

(this photo has nothing to do with the post...just wanted to share...and what good is a post with no photos?) 

"It's funny, not really, how the punishment fits the crime in God's economy. The woman took on Adam's headship and now futilely wants it. If she gets it, it's often to her own hurt. Adam, however, passively allows his wife to take charge of the situation. Now all nature fights against his passivity, never allowing him to rest." Sandra-a lady I go to church with...but don't know.  :)

I read this quote this morning and it made my heart sing.  Because it is so TRUE.  I honestly believe that the womens lib movement has done more harm than good...made women more unsafe than ever in history.  (Let the verbal beating begin).  And I have been so happy to hear a pastor preach so many thoughts on the subject that are in line with GOD's plan and NOT with mans.  Many of the thoughts in this post have been spoken from the pulpit of our church where we have been going through a series of sermons on Genesis.  And I have honestly never, ever, loved a series of sermons MORE...because I share so many of the same thoughts.

Each Sunday we would discuss God's original plans for how things should be...and how they are now.  So much hurt and pain through history because of man's disobedience...and the beautiful redemptive love of a God who cares too much to let us fall into the hands of our own destruction, but instead sends a Hope for our future. 

Many will claim that the Bible is not for today.  That times were different then and the instructions were for a different people.  And what do we even have in common with those people?  I say everything.  The more things change the more they stay the same.  They were "yeah, but" people and so are we. 

Let me explain...when I was a social worker, with 30-40 kids on my list of clients that I had to meet with regulary, I had two steadfast rules for them.  1) We never say "shut-up" and, 2) We never say "yeah, but".  As in I ask them a question, such as "Do you want to do better in school?" and they respond with "Yeah, but I can't"...or some form of that. 

We are "yeah, but" people just like the people of Moses' day.

God delivers them from an ugly situation and they say "yeah, but we don't have water"...God delivers us from an ugly situation and we say "yeah, but we don't have the house we used to".  

God gives them water and manna and they say "Yeah, but we want meat". 

God gives us a job and we say "Yeah, but I'm not using my degree". 

You get the idea.  God gives us/gave them good and we respond with "yeah, but it's not enough". 

God set up a plan for how the family unit was to be and we say "yeah, but we know a better way".  We are constant in our correction of God.  I know I am guilty of this.  

It has been my theory for years...for as long as I can remember...that you can trace every social problem back to the breakdown of the family unit.  And you can trace the break down of the family unit back to a break down of trust and reliance in God.  We think we can fix every situation on our own...seek our own solutions and do our own thing...like we know better.  We never know better.  

I know I am blessed to be in a marriage where my husband seeks God and His plans for our hope and future.  This allows me to trust Doug 100% without fear of my safety or well being.  I know that not everyone can claim such a thing and truly that grieves me.  As much as some may not want to hear it, women were made to be in care of men. Not dominated by or controlled by or bossed around by or hurt by...but cared for and loved by a man who seeks God and HIS intentions.  If every marriage was this way...imagine the love and grace in the world? 

 God created woman to be a helper to her husband.  Some read this as derogatory but it is not so...for God called Himself a helper.  Woman is supposed to be born into the PROTECTION of the family to be honored, served and protected.  Sadly, this is often not the case because of all of our "yeah, buts".

The state of our society today often has me in a whirl of homesickness for Heaven.  I'm weird in that the death of a believer, while it does sadden me...also makes me a little jealous.  Jealous because the worries of this world are behind them and they are now spending eternity worshiping and hanging out with Jesus.  

Someone once commented on one of my posts about how they felt like the world was getting better and better every day.  Can I tell you that no comment has ever haunted me more? No comment, not even the all the ugly ones combined, has ever made me more sad. 

Are we blessed beyond what we deserve? Yes.  

Is God good? Yes. 

Is the world a good place and getting better? No, no, no.  Nothing is as it was intended.  If the world is good...what good would Jesus be? 

If there was good in us...what would the point of a redemptive savior be? 

We are all knee deep in sin.  

We all need the point of life...and that is to glorify God and enjoy HIM.

So that is where my heart is at the moment...swirling and whirling around these concepts and how to apply them to my life...how to pass them on to my children. 

And for some reason I feel compelled to share this, maybe you need to hear it, maybe I'll just look pathetic but...

I have read my Bible for years...13-14 years or so.  And it is only in the last year that I have LOVED to read it.  It has only been in the last year that I can truly say that I savor it...that I miss it when I don't...that look forward to my time reading it because I can FEEL His presence when I do.  That is MY time and I treasure it.  Can I just encourage you to hang in there?  God always shows up.

Never has this been more true:

No power of hell, no scheme of man
Could ever pluck me from His hand

Til He returns or calls me home
Here in the power of Christ I stand

And this is where I am in my learning...I always love to hear your thoughts...and as usual, ugly, anonymous comments will be ignored and not published.

 Thanks to Chris (our pastor) and his thoughts that echoed mine so well. 

xo




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21 comments:

undonegirl said...

I say 'Preach it Sister!' Not sure there is a word I disagree with in there. I would just add that the man's role, the protecting and leading and loving as Christ loved the church? Yeah, that's about a million times harder than our role. If my husband loves me as Christ loved the church and Christ DIED for the church then seriously, why would I have any problem being under his headship? Great post Girlie.

Simply Spontaneous said...

Thank you for this post. You are absolutely right on...not in the eyes of the world, but in the eyes of our Savior, and that's all that really matters, right?

chinaorbust2004 said...

AMEN!

Christy said...

I rarely comment here, but read everything you post. Well said today, my sister. I have to agree with it all. I sometimes feel like I am all alone in these beliefs. But just last night our preacher preached on submission. It was wonderful. I truly believe it is so much easier to just let my husband deal with everything, while I just do what he says. :) Most of the time, anyway. Thanks for this post and for always standing for what you believe is right. For always bringing people back to the Bible and what Jesus did. I am also so blessed to know that you read your Bible and LOVE it. I have received such a blessing from your post today. Much hugs and love to you.

Kelly said...

I read this a little while ago but had to let it process for a few minutes before I could comment. It's full to bursting of good, sound, biblical thoughts. I totally agree with every single thing. Including your belief that every social problem comes from the breakdown of the family unit. I have said that for a very long time. And the "yeah buts" - I love how you put that! It's so easy to get a bad case of those and let it ruin all the blessings the Lord has poured on us. Thank you for sharing your thoughts today!

Rachel said...

I couldn't agree more!!!

And thank you for that last bit about God always showing up, I've really been struggling this past month, and I've been needing daily (sometimes hourly) reminders that He hasn't forgotten. So thank you :)

pondering said...

This is so true! Take it from someone who had to do all of it alone. God created it this way from the beginning, its given to us in His word. I realized this truth when I began having my own kids. (They are 18,16, and 13 now, all girls). Though my own family went in the wrong direction. Ours went in the direction you describe in this post that results from consequences of sin, from tragedy, from the fallen world, the broken family, (here's my "yeah, but" haha) but I see the incredible faithfulness of God to us in all of it. We are so very blessed! Though I believe it was God's will and intent for us to have the father and the husband role in our lives, much better! Having struggled through this crucial lack in our lives, I know (through fire) how important this is. It didn't work out that way for us, hard as I strove for it and instead God filled our lives with His abundant grace, provision, love and care in a way that I can't do anything else but praise and thank Him! Words fail. I'm left speechless in complete awe to think over the magnitude of all He has poured into our lives. He has humbled me and my girls to our knees with His love and care. Through miracles our God has brought us to the place we are today.
As you describe in this post, sometimes I struggle with wishing it had been different for us (those not so good "yeah, buts"), and I know my girls have that twinge of wishful thinking too sometimes, having had no earthly father. But I have prayed so hard to keep my eyes on the Lord, and remind them to do the same. I love the verses in the Bible that remind us of God's love and care for the widow and fatherless, and our lives are a living testimony to the truth of those promises. So, my prayer for my girls is that God would bring them godly men who would be, much like your husband, loving, caring, leading his family in the Lord. I hope for them they will have that. Having been without it, I know that what you describe in this post, is TOTALLY the way God intended.
I wonder if people write nasty comments to heart-felt posts like this because maybe, even though its the truth, if they have a painful spot, or a wound that is being touched when reading these. Some are mean, I'm sure, just because they disagree and are in sin and selfish. But others, maybe, have some hurt they don't want to face. Maybe a husband who is not good to them, or something. Sometimes these women feel its their fault and they can't do anything to change it, so they possibly get defensive. I don't know. Just a guess. Some others may be just purely selfish. Who knows.
But God's creation, His will for marriage (which He created and designed though some want to think they can create, design and define marriage in their own eyes, but it was God who did) and the way he directed the family unit is perfect. The truth being taught like you do here is becoming very rare these days.

Carrie M. said...

~ Wow! This is one of the best post I think I have ever read. Thank you so much for letting God speak through you to write this.

Melanie said...

So true! "Forward Thinking Women" took two giant steps backward when they wanted to be something they were not preordained to become. I am proud to be a mother and nurturer.

It is a good thing God has His army of the righteous to be a powerful opposition to the wickedness on the earth. With each swell of evil, there is someone like you out there to remind us of God, Salvation, and Eternity. This is how He remains conqueror.

shellybellylarson said...

I {love} this post and could not agree with you more !!

Mrs Green said...

Hi. I don't usually leave comments but your post has really hit a nerve. I only found your blog by accident, your ho ho's reached out to me! I am a teacher in the uk, married with 3 children. I am currently on maternity leave and have just taken up sewing, crafting to keep my mind busy. For some reason doing these things has given me the urge to reconnect with God. I have begun to attend church once more. In the UK it isn't the norm anymore to attend church, which often makes me feel silly for going. Your post (and the one about working mothers) really spoke to me. It has made me think about my family, my
choices and my faith. I totally agree with the views about the breakdown of the family unit, this is becoming common here. you said something in your post about " maybe we need to hear it". I did and I thank you for your words.

Mrs Green said...

Hi. I don't usually leave comments but your post has really hit a nerve. I only found your blog by accident, your ho ho's reached out to me! I am a teacher in the uk, married with 3 children. I am currently on maternity leave and have just taken up sewing, crafting to keep my mind busy. For some reason doing these things has given me the urge to reconnect with God. I have begun to attend church once more. In the UK it isn't the norm anymore to attend church, which often makes me feel silly for going. Your post (and the one about working mothers) really spoke to me. It has made me think about my family, my
choices and my faith. I totally agree with the views about the breakdown of the family unit, this is becoming common here. you said something in your post about " maybe we need to hear it". I did and I thank you for your words.

Holly said...

Amen! Great post girl!

Ky said...

A wonderful post Crystal! It needs to be said more and more openly. The feminist movement DID ruin it for women. We ARE supposed to be love and protected by men, not dominated and abused like so many cultures do to the women. God DID intend for us to be loved and respected. And yes, the world is getting worse and worse and my heart weeps with every story of death or abuse of humans. It's everywhere and Satan is using his evil at full strength.
It's time Jesus came to take His followers home.

sreil1 said...

Wonderful post! I too, have always dreamed of being a wife and mother. For 10 years I was blessed with being a stay at home mom until I divorced from my boys' father. I went back to work in order to support my family. I believe that it broke my heart more than my divorce, that I would not have as much time with my children that they so needed and deserved. But this year I was laid off and have been for five months. I have been blessed to spend the summer with my boys, getting even closer to them. Even though I have worried everyday about finding work, God has provided for this five long months. As my money and time seem to be running out, I know that God will provide me with a job to take care of us again. I loved your "hang in there" line. What I definitely needed to hear.

righteousnessbyfaith said...

I love coming across blog posts that boldly speak the truth and proclaim Jesus. Thank you for encouraging post and for boldly speaking the truth.
The world is full of evil and gets worse every day and so I thank God for the hope that He has given to His children and I pray for those that do not know Him.
God is in control and everything is for His glory...I rest in that.
Keep posting and sharing your heart.It is a blessing and brings glory to God.

Anonymous said...

"Nothing is as it was intended."

Really? How can you be so sure? How do you know what was intended for society? Or if there was any intention at all?

Trish said...

so thankful for you and your friendship :)

katyquilts said...

Such a great post! Love to read blogs where people are not afraid to speak the truth! I agree 100%!

LKP said...

i'm right there with ya on this.
have you read the book "eve and the choice made in eden" by beverly campbell? great book. helps me appreciate eve's choice better and my role as a woman...really where i fit in and how great my worth is as a woman...beside man, not in front or behind. as his help-meet...who helps share the burden.

also, in regards to your thoughts on the women's lib movement? it scares me. the movement, not your thoughts. as a matter of fact, within this past week, one of our old neighborhood families had their family melt down in their front yard. what was behind it? the wife's obsession with women's lib. in the past year or so she'd started attending these WL functions & retreats. turned out she hooked up with another woman at these retreats...and she's left her husband and children just reeling in the wake of her choices.

simply heartbreaking.

i know i'm LDS, and not everyone else is...and that okay...but i feel very validated as a wife and mother by the strength of the words in "The Family: A Proclamation to the World." it outlines specifically the importance of the family unit, our responsibilities as parents, our legacy that is our children, how we can be better families, as well as the eminent destruction that will befall communities, countries, governments, etc if the family is not fortified and protected.
(if you're at all interested in reading it or printing it out, you can do so here at ---> http://www.scribd.com/doc/100618/The-Family-a-Proclamation-to-the-World)

my beliefs & testimony of our families and women's roles in them echoes yours. thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject.

*CPA* Su said...

Love, love, LOVE this!! I don't even know where to begin! Two of my favorite lines are:

"that you can trace every social problem back to the breakdown of the family unit. And you can trace the break down of the family unit back to a break down of trust and reliance in God"

"...imagine the love and grace in the world?"

Thank you for sharing. The series of sermons sounds really great! I am going to forward this to a friend of mine who always has trouble with the whole 'wife being submissive to your husband' part of the Bible. :) I think you spelled it out beautifully!

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