random...and a discussion please.

First...does summer make you lazy cook too? 
We've been eating a lot of salads and sandwiches...or grilling.  If I do make a "real" dinner it looks something like this.  Do you have a favorite lazy summer meal?
And speaking of lazy...this is sometimes how we end our afternoons in the pool...throw in a little baby wash and you have yourself a bath.  The boys don't seem to mind...and it extends our time outside just a little before bed. 
The boys sharing a little breakfast time "dap".

We took the boys to play on UVA's campus...with their Virginia Tech football. :)
I think there will always be something about a college campus that I love...even if it's the campus of Tech's biggest rivals.  Moses, proving to be Doug's son, has been asking everyday when football starts.
And if you have never met our hoho...this photo pretty much sums him up.  Cute. Little. Stinker.  AKA a Happy Hoho monster. 
And speaking of hoho monsters...I'm working on a HUGE batch.  I hope to get them listed by the end of the week.  If you haven't asked me to reserve one for you...you might want to think about doing so...they go fast.  :)  They would make perfect gifts...because I can guarantee they won't have one. :)
And there will be PINK ones...but I won't be reserving those this go round...

And for the discussion.  I'm still on the fence about whether or not to homeschool.  Doug is over the fence and doesn't think we should...but I still want to pray and research.  Of course I would never oppose him if he says no...because I know that if we are supposed to...then God will change his heart.  For now I plan to do a "dry run" next year...since Moses birthday falls after the cut off date we could have a school year to try before it effects his public school experience.  

So this is where I want to hear from you...do you homeschool and why?  Were you homeschooled and hated it or loved it?  Why would you never homeschool?  Anything to do with homeschool I want to hear about. Ok...thanks friends!

Happy Monday and happy week! 






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Anonymous said...

We opted not to homeschool - similar situation in that I was considering it and dad said no. Our kids are in public school and have had good experiences over 6+ years. That said, we have agreed that homeschool is the plan if things change too much with public school. (In our area, things are changing quite a bit - lines moving, magnet programs disappearing, etc.) I think there are such great resources out there to help you but it wasn't the right choice for us at the kindergarten point. I know lots of families who have chosen to homeschool and have done a great job of it. Do the research and be honest with yourself about why you want to do it. The right choice will become clear with time.

Anonymous said...

We think a like when it comes to crafts, kids, husbands, and Jesus! So I thought I would leave my take on it! The best advice I got (we have a 6 yr old and 3 yr old) before my oldest went to K last year- was that as parents- "we need to insulate, not isolate our kids." My daughter goes to public school and we LOVE it! Mind you, I got to pick her teacher and I research that as much as possible-- but I think you will find that most teachers in public school really are Christians. They have a heart for my kids and the Lord. Public schools need our Christian kids. (In my opinion). We get to face real issues at the age of 5 and talk through them at home. I am also allowed to go visit her any day for lunch and help any day in her class. For our family- it is perfect. I have a handful of close friends that home school- it just isn't for our family. Hope that helps! -Jenn

Debra said...

Those plates are so adorable! Where did you find them?

Amy H. said...

I do not have answers to your homeschooling questions. But I sure know who does. I forwarded this to my cousin, who SUCCESSFULLY home schooled all 5 of her kids. I know she has A LOT to share and I know it will be helpful.

xo, Kate @keeping up w/the Moreland's said...

my son also had missed the cut off so i had an extra year with him, where i did exactly like you mentioned... i was so happy for him to start his first day at school at a regular school though!! i think kids need to go to school, they need to learn how to interact with their peers and with other adults as well, it is getting them prepared for when they are older & in the workforce.I am a huge, huge , huge believer in sending them,,, not o get rid of them, but because i would never want to take any of experience away from them it can only prepare them for the future! good luck with your decision!!

Amanda said...

Eeek! Your boys are so stinkin cute! I love bath time in the pool!

Amy Bell said...

well..this is my first year of homeschooling..in fact, i am ordering the books today. mr L went to school last year...and this year we wanted to try it. he is going to be a part of a coop where he goes to school right by our house...2 days a week for a full day each time...he has a teacher and also specials like music..it is a Christian school...the other 3 days a week he is with me at home. we are getting our space ready for a school place right now....

there is a target right across the street from the homeschool building...yep. please please have doug apply..k? xoxo

Amy Bell said...

well..this is my first year of homeschooling..in fact, i am ordering the books today. mr L went to school last year...and this year we wanted to try it. he is going to be a part of a coop where he goes to school right by our house...2 days a week for a full day each time...he has a teacher and also specials like music..it is a Christian school...the other 3 days a week he is with me at home. we are getting our space ready for a school place right now....

there is a target right across the street from the homeschool building...yep. please please have doug apply..k? xoxo

Wendy said...

I dont homeschool, so I guess I cant REALLY say anything against it, but I never even considered it for my kids. I want them to be out with other kids & learn to interact & socialize with them. Thinking back to when I was a kid, homeschool seems like it would have been kind of lonely. As long as you find a school that you're happy with, I think that public schools are perfectly fine.

Emilie said...

We homeschool. My daughters are entering K and Gr. 1 this year. We love it. My best advice is to relax, and also to find support through other homeschooling families. Our kids aren't around other kids as much as public schooled kids, but through Awana, sports clubs, church, etc, they get plenty of interaction! It's been a huge joy to get to know my kids better and to see their personalities develop. Surprisingly, homeschooling has boosted my daughter's self-esteem and rather than making her shy, has really brought out her social side. Either way, it's a decision you'll need to make together with Doug, but homeschooling is definetly a good thing in our book :)

Micah said...

You've got it... pray pray pray. We homeschooled for six years. We started with a 5th grader and 1st grader. The decision to homeschool was not easily made nor was the decision to stop. We had to sell our home and find another one in a decent district in order to put them in public school. It was the Holy Spirit who led us through it all. There are great things about both options and not so great on both sides as well.
If God leads you to homeschool then you can't go wrong. Continue to pray. He will answer.

Happy Hodge Podge said...

I feel that it is important to send children to school. I love the earlier comment 'insulate, don't isolate'. School prepares children for the real world. We have the opportunity to discuss problems as they arise, and learn how to deal with them. I also feel that my children can set an example for other children because of their strong foundation in Christ; without saying a word. We often times have parents ask us how our children are so content and grounded, and we use that as a witnessing tool. I know MANY homeschooling families, and have to say that I see their children struggle to fit in - even in church youth group. I know MANY homeschooled teens that say they wish they could go to public schools.
As far as teaching opportunities, they don't stop just because my children are in public school; ex: my daughter and I are currently working through the 'Prairie Primer' homeschooling curriculum based on the Little House on the Prairie books (during the summer). We find lots of opportunities to enhance or expand her public school education -- we take sewing classes together, we have planted a garden, we are working through a 4H digital photography curriculum, we participate in community theatre, we are starting an at-home jewelry making business (geared towards teens), we are taking mother/daughter violin lessons, she helps prepare dinner from start to finish at least once a week -- the choices are endless!!

righteousnessbyfaith said...

I just recently stumbled upon your blog and I really like it. :)
I am also starting my first year of homeschooling in a few weeks, teaching my son kindergarten. I have three children and one on the way (ages 2y, 3.5yrs and 5 yrs)
My husband has three other siblings and they were all homeschooled. We have known for quite some time that this is what we wanted for our children but were also open to change if God led in a different direction.
Our reasons for homeschooling: We want to give our children a firm foundation in the truth before sending them out into this world. They will maybe eventually attend public school and if they do, we will start them at a point in which everyone is starting new so they are not left out of anything (like middle school or junior high)...if they go.
Children learn so much of the world at such an early age these days...things that they cannot simply process or understand so early on. It is our job to train them in the ways of the Lord, period...whether homeschooled or not. But I believe that it is so much harder when they are in public school because they spend far more time (hours of the day) under the world's influence than under yours. If you are able to stay home and home school, at least for a little while, then I strongly believe that your children, you and the whole rest of your family will be greatly blessed for it.
And if you decide to home school, there are some great choices in curriculum out there that are based upon the word of God.
The one we chose is My Father's World. I am so excited about it. It looks fantastic! Check it out online. It was also one of the least expensive. I had no idea how much these school books cost! But the good thing is that I will use these same books for all of my children. :)
Good luck and remember whatever you decide, you are the mommy that God gave your children and you are a blessing to them! :)

Janel said...

Good Morning Crystal!

I do not have children, however I have a firend who home schooled all 9 children. What I observed over the last 26 yrs were these few things. A very happy well rounded household. Siblings who loved and nutured each other. A calm and peaceful home in which there was no TV or Stereo. Lots of animals outside that needed attending, sewing, crafting and wood working what kept them all busy. All positive for sure. But the negative I observed was they had no idea how to live in the real world. They were not exposed to much of the outside world, and the only socializing they had was really with each other. It has been an adjustment to say the least as the older ones leave home. They can very much be compared to the Dugger family of 18children. I think children need school for socializing, decision making, building moral and confidence. The list goes on. I loved the comment above that parents must insulate, not isolate children. Perhaps you would like a Waldorf school? That seems to be more your family style...i think?

Good luck on the decision! at least you still have a little more time....

Amy said...

I am a bit biased, b/c I am a public school teacher... but I agree with the comment about most teachers being Christians. We have some wonderful Christian teachers at our school, including our principal. We have some very tough students at our school and I love that they are being shown the love of Jesus through these adult role models. My children also attend my school and I love some of the things they are being exposed to: kids who speak other languages, kids with mild to severe disabilities... they are learning to be kind and accepting of people who are different than them. Of course, there are always things they are exposed to that I wish they weren't but it allows us the opportunity to discuss those things as a family. I like the comment about "insulating, not isolating." I think our public schools do need Christian kids/parents in them. Good luck with your decision!

Molly said...

OK I am loving the pool baths! I thought I was the only person who had ever taken a bath in a washtub when I was little! My granny would hose us down and soap up the water in the washtub and let us bath in there in the summer time. Hoho is cute and so is Moses! If I had a little shild to get a hoho for I would, they are truly darling and unique! Hope you have a fabulous week and as far as homeschooling goes, I say go for it!!! I plan on homeschooling my future children, don't when God decides to let me have any since I will be 30 next month but He has grand plans in store for us I'm sure of it!! I'll probably be 50 with a newborn in a buggy and me in a hovaround, ha ha!!
~Molly P

holoholomom said...

This is Amy's cousin (humble thanks Amy for considering me successful at homeschooling). I have 5 kids, Started homeschooling when my oldest was in 2nd grade and the rest always homeschooled. Now the 1st has graduated college with honors, the 2nd is in his senior year of college, the 3rd entering college this year, the 4th is a homeschooled high school junior and my 5th is staring 6th grade as a homeschooler. They are good, happy children and I am proud of them. Maybe this is why Amy thinks I can give you advice, so I'll try. Ultimately the decision is between you and your husband.
Up front, I just want to say that whatever you do, educating your child is a big responsibility no matter how you do it, and is going to take involvement if you are going to be successful, and sometimes it will be hard. Life happens. So, if you decide to send your children to school, commit to it and continue to direct them at home in following through with what they do in school, and commit to it in following through and teaching them life skills at home. If you homeschool them, commit to it and realize you are going to be more than educating them. I have seen many homeschoolers with a great education, and few life skills, or the opposite, great life skills but inadequate education. Homeschooling takes commitment to seeing that you are able to balance life and home together, and as I said, life happens.
I want to be honest with you and let you know that as much as I love being with my children, I sometimes wonder how I am able to do what I do. I look back and think some times were great in our homeschooling fitting the so called successful, but more often than I like to admit, between babies and taking care of grandma our homeschooling had some weak moments. By God's grace my children survived homeschooling, and survived me! I have no doubt they would have survived public school too, just in a different way. Hard things are great character builders. Take your time in making your decision and evaluate all of your options. In the mean time keep preparing your children for school and life. They are young, so nurture them, read to them, give them age appropriate responsibilities, discipline them lovingly and firmly when they need it, give them guidance and council and lots and lots of love.

KMonti said...

Our kids are still way too small but we've already decided on homeschooling. Mind you, Hubs and I used to be completely against it because most home-schoolers are well... you know, commonly unsocialized and kind'a nerdy {harsh, I realize}. However, we have recently seen some success stories and have realized that academically it's likely to be better for our kids. Don't get me wrong, we live in a fantastic school district for academics but the school still spends a lot of time on discipline and less on education. I also LOVE the freedom that comes with doing it yourself. Think of all the field trips you could take! All that to say, we have a lot of friends with kids the same age as ours so we will work hard to socialize them with sports and playdates and feel confident they'll be just fine. The Lord will lay out His plan for you soon enough. Enjoy the next year!

maribeth said...

as a christian, a mommy and a teacher, i understand why both options exist. when i was in college getting a degree in prek-3rd, i did not understand why anyone would home school when there were people who were educated specifically to teach and love on your children, but by the time i graduated, i knew there were many people in my program who never needed to spend a single day in a classroom. then, i had my own children and i really didn't want them to be in just any classroom. i want them to be protected from the unnecessary meanness of the world. i want them in a safe, protected environment. if i were honest, i want them in a plastic bubble! haha! but, like anonymous number 2 said, as christians, we are called to be in the world, not of the world. and, that doesn't just mean us, it means our children, too. in fact, often times, our children are so much more effective at reaching out to people because of their sweet innocence and unbiased experiences. now, i say all that to say that between these beliefs and the personality of our oldest, we have chosen public school. she will enter her kindergarten year in a few days as one of the oldest because of her late birthday. and, we just moved to ensure that we were putting her in the school we felt was best for us. (in our previous home, public school was not really an option.) but, i also know home school has its place. we have several friends that home school currently. at this point, there are so many resources and options for homeschooling. it has the opportunity to be a more successful option if one chooses to teach to their child's learning styles and to continually seek out best teaching practices. sadly, these resources are not inexpensive and i know cost can be more than private school depending on your curriculum costs. like many have said, this is a decision no one else can make for you. it is between your family and God. and, no matter anyone else's opinion, if the decision is best for you, then that is all that matters!

holoholomom said...

My cousin Amy H just sent me your blog, so I will try to help you out. I'm a mother of 5 great kids- 1 college grad, 2 college students and a highschool and middle school homeschooler. Homeschooled since my oldest was in 2nd grade, over 16 yrs. I want to be honest and just say all education takes commitment and involvement, and whatever you choose will be right with commitment and involvement. It's ultimately yours and your husband's decision- don't let anyone pressure you. Educating your child means following through and going beyond the schooling. It is nurturing, preparing them for life, disciplining lovingly when needed, guiding and giving lots of love and patience. It's often hard- life happens, babies are born, parents or grandparents get old and need our help, we or our children get sick, we get busy or overcommitted, and all these things affect our parenting, our schooling, but also grow our character. The best choice is to be a great parent, so take an honest look at what you can commit yourself to and see what works best for YOUR family!

Tasha said...

I have choosen to put my son in public school. (And I am pretty sure my other boys will do the same.) I think it is a personal choice. My advice would be to put in him kindergarten and see if you like the school and teachers and see how he does. Then make your decision. I have found if I get involved and know what is going on then I can see what is best. But, I have also said that if things get worse in my state and area then I might eventually have to homeschool. So, it is a case by case situation. I don't know that that is any help. All these things with our kids is so tuff to know exactly what is right.

Vinyl Rocks My World said...

I love the idea of homeschooling, especially if the public schools in the area are not favorable/too far away/I am uncomfortable with the schools or curriculum. However, I don't think I could homeschool my (future) children because going to school allows a child to have to make decisions, interact with people (be they friends or bullies) and gain a sense of understanding of others. My sister-in-law has made the decision to homeschool - the boys have their friends from church and they will play for a church-based soccer team. This being said, I don't think they will have to face many adverse situations, have to learn first-hand how to make good decisions, and learn about people from completely different walks of life because all of their friends will come from their church or a church-based program. They're all really good kids and they may have a hard time when they're older, not having been introduced to other people.

Vinyl Rocks My World said...

Also, I think it's good for kids to learn to take direction from other adults. There is so much they can learn from being in school that isn't in the curriculum.. kids learn people skills, problem-solving skills, and creativity they may not have at home.

Oh Mandie said...

I've been on the homeschooling fence for awhile too, but we're lucky enough to live in a semi-rural area where a lot of the problems that bigger schools have don't really come into play here, so we opted with public school. I think it's important to for my boys to be around other children in order to build friendships on their own and to devolop social skills. I did a lot of praying and in the end I think public school is the best choice for our family, with a lot of designated time for out of school Christian activities, like Awana and the childrens choir at our church. Good luck with your decision. I'm sure God will point you in the right direction for you and your family.

Anna Marie said...

This is a topic I can go on and on about. I went to a Christian school 1st through 12th with the exception of 5th and 6th when I was homeschooled. I then went on to get a teaching degree in Elementary Ed. and Early Childhood Ed. After 5+ yrs of college I came to the realization that my children will NEVER be in a public school. Never, ever, ever!!! The things that educators are taught and oh the things that are to come. It will only get worse! But even if you set aside everything else and focus on one sole thing: Jesus Christ. It is easy for me to make my decision. One thing that they pounded into us in college was how maliable young children are. If you stick little ones into an environment where Mama or Daddy can't be there to protect them at least a little bit then you are just asking for trouble. The way so many parents are "parenting" these days and the things that children see and hear can only mean certain disaster once my young, innocent child sees or hears it repeated. I hate that the other children have lost their innocence but that doesn't mean that mine does. To give you one example of something that I disagree with that is happening in classrooms all over the US is teacher's being forced to teach about homosexual family units. There are MANY books out now that are about two mommies and two daddies and these young children are taught that this is normal and that they should accept it. I say NO! Now will all of this being said I do want you to know that I in no way judge my friends or family when they send their kids to public school. I just know that we have been called to homeschool. And if for some reason that is completely out of the question my daughter will go to a private Christian school. Hope this gives you some insight ;) God bless!!!

Anna Marie said...

This is a topic I can go on and on about. I went to a Christian school 1st through 12th with the exception of 5th and 6th when I was homeschooled. I then went on to get a teaching degree in Elementary Ed. and Early Childhood Ed. After 5+ yrs of college I came to the realization that my children will NEVER be in a public school. Never, ever, ever!!! The things that educators are taught and oh the things that are to come. It will only get worse! But even if you set aside everything else and focus on one sole thing: Jesus Christ. It is easy for me to make my decision. One thing that they pounded into us in college was how maliable young children are. If you stick little ones into an environment where Mama or Daddy can't be there to protect them at least a little bit then you are just asking for trouble. The way so many parents are "parenting" these days and the things that children see and hear can only mean certain disaster once my young, innocent child sees or hears it repeated. I hate that the other children have lost their innocence but that doesn't mean that mine does. To give you one example of something that I disagree with that is happening in classrooms all over the US is teacher's being forced to teach about homosexual family units. There are MANY books out now that are about two mommies and two daddies and these young children are taught that this is normal and that they should accept it. I say NO! Now will all of this being said I do want you to know that I in no way judge my friends or family when they send their kids to public school. I just know that we have been called to homeschool. And if for some reason that is completely out of the question my daughter will go to a private Christian school. Hope this gives you some insight ;) God bless!!!

patricia e said...

My kids went through the public school system ~ don't hear about homeschooling alot in Canada as much as you do in the States. But it never crossed my mind because I just went with the flow and like everyone else took the kids to school in the year they turned 5. There seems to be so many other options now. Between homeschooling (more and more are doing it here now), pre-kindergarten for the 3 to 5 yrs...My point in this is that it wasn't really an option for my children at that time. I remember the first day of school my three created such an emotional turmoil in me. I felt I was deserting them. Like they were being torn away and I wasn't sure they would be there when I went to pick them up. How would I survive the day without them? Would they get lost? I know this sounds extreme, and I don't want to scare you to thinking that there's no way I'm taking that route now..But it was the initial feelings that I went through with each of them as we experienced their first year of their school life. Needless to say, it really was an emotional time, but as the weeks went on, I realized that they enjoyed school, made lots of friends and I got a few hours during the day to shop, clean etc. without having little ones at my feet all day. I felt refreshed and ready to take on anything they threw at me. They came home happy, excited to tell me what they learned, who they played with, etc. When thinking back part of me wishes I could have homeschooled them though or at least had the option. You could have a little more control over who they made friends with and also could maybe restrict their contact with some outside influences at such an early age. I have a friend I met online who lives in the state of MI who homeschools her two girls. She was a teacher in the public school system previous to having children. She wouldn't have it any other way. Either option requires alot of committment as parents. If you choose the public school system, becoming involved as much as possible is the key. I agree with Amy's sister, that there are so many other skills that are learned at home and between those life skills and keeping involved in their school learning it's a busy time. Homeschooling would be interrupted at times because life will get in the way. They'll be no separation and you'll have to develop ways to deal with that. You just carry on when you can. I think if you homeschool you become part of a unique community that is very tightknit. You develop relationships with other homeschool moms who all have the same goals,values and ideas. You become a great resource to each other. I'm not saying that the public system doesn't have similar environments, but you just don't have the same input necessarily. You do have the option to volunteer in your child's classrooms at the earlier ages. But as they get older obviously that dwindles...It all comes down to what the two of you decide is best and what you are able to handle (emotionally & financially). List the pros and cons for each and you will know as the time gets closer. I think it's a great idea to try homeschooling this year with the boys...Seek other homeschooling moms in your area for input. Getting together to discuss some the issues would be a wonderful way to find about other issues and help you to finally make that decision. Good luck with that.

ps. My 3 went through the public system ~ oldest daughter finished high school with honours, went on to University (Bachelor Sports & Phys Ed, minor in Geography)for five years, married this year and working as a police officer ~ second daughter graduated high school, 2 yrs College and is working full-time as a Police Dispatcher and living on her own ~ third child a son has just graduated from high school with honours, heading off to College for Pre-firefighting.


ps. The bubble swimming pool is a great idea! Why didn't I think of that when my kids were little?

Tara@JustDevineStyle said...

My hubby said no to me when I told him I was thinking about maybe using Sonlight with the kids this year. He wants them in school. We put them in a Christian School in February due to issues at the public school. The cost is $400 a month so I thought home school would be nicer on the pocketbook. I don't think I shelter my children but I think they are exposed to way too much way too early in out public schools. I have already had to talk with each of them about things I would rather have waited on. I think unfortunately some innocence is gone. Not that they are not able to handle other situations but some of the subjects that come up are surprising for a 8 and 10 year old. I know your boys are young so they may not experience any crazy topics yet but I started having to deal with it when my daughter was in 2nd grade.

jaimelynn said...

I was homeschooled all the way up until I went to college. I didn't know any different, but I loved it! My mom is a credentialed elementary school teacher, so she had a minor advantage over those who want to homeschool, but maybe don't feel confident in their own ability to effectively teach their children. I don't know if you're in that category or not. My parents started homeschooling my 3 siblings and I when it was taboo. And they did an awesome job of providing not only the education, but also ample opportunities to be involved with other kids. We went on numerous outings (field trips!) with other homeschool families, we did children's choir/drama and PE classes with our homeschool group, we were heavily involved in our church's children's programs (like AWANA), I did ballet for a little while, and spent all of jr. high and high school in a music program as well as a community youth orchestra. We were definitely not the "sheltered," "socially inept" homeschool family! I feel like my parents very intentionally wanted our education to be Christian-based, yet wanted us to have experiences with the "real world" at the same time. All that being said, when I did sit in a classroom for the first time as a 17-yr old college freshman, I adapted very quickly and felt very prepared. And there are so many more resources out there nowadays to make homeschooling successful for your family than there was when my parents did it. But I think you have to be a team - if your husband isn't completely for it, then it may not work as well. And don't forget that every child is different - your children may thrive in a public school more than they ever would at home, and you and Doug are definitely the best judges of that. I wish you the best!

Shelly said...

You know, of course, that I homeschool my kids. It wasn't God's timing for us to start right away, but we listened to Him when it was time and have never looked back. I just recently did a blog post about it, check it out for more insight:

http://lifeasweknowit5.blogspot.com/2010/07/warning-i-am-freaking-out.html

Beyond that, and all the great advice you'll get, just pray about it! God will direct you in the way you should go, so just get your heart in a neutral place and He will sway it towards His path!!

Kristen said...

i never ever thought i would homeschool my children. i taught public school for ten years and when our second baby came along i became a stay at home mom. when we moved our daughter started kindergarten in a christian school and loved it. we loved it. during that year God started tugging on my heart to homeschool. i really didn't want to do it but i also wanted to be obedient.

i have loved every minute of homeschooling over the last four years. there are days when we struggle and it isn't easy. it is like having a full time job ... planning, organizing, and teaching. it definitely takes commitment. the schedule works for wonderfully for our family right now. our oldest daughter does competitive gymnastics so we are able to school her in the morning and she can practice in the afternoon and we still have family time.

i absolutely do NOT feel like our kids are isolated or struggle socially. i think that homeschooling families get a bad reputation from the few families that do isolate their kids. when most people ask our kids where they go to school and find out they are homeschooled they are shocked because are kids are well adjusted, "normal" kids. our kids {and most that we know from homeschooling} don't fit what they think homeschooling kids should be like.

anyway, keep praying and God will guide you in the right direction. every family needs to do what is best and what works for them.

Cheryl said...

I recommend deciding what type of education you want your children to have and then decide where they will best receive that education. A book called "For the Children's Sake- foundations of education for home and school" by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay is a great place to start. I highly recommend it. Best wishes to you in what ever you and your husband decide.

Trish said...

This is a big question...

I didn't want to homeschool, because of the time it would take and worrying I would screw up my kids! Basically, I feel my reasons not to homeschool were selfish.

I prayed about it, researched it, talked to the hubby about it. It all felt like God was leading me down the path of homeschooling my kids. Once I made the decision, I felt at peace about it. But slowly the doubts would creep in. I'm not smart enough to do this, you will screw up your kids, they will be freaks and no on will play with them, you will NEVER have time to do what YOU want to do, etc... The more I thought about the pro's and con's I felt that the con's were really satan trying to get inside my head and mix me all up! ugh.

A friend of mine sent me a link about online homeschooling, blah, blah, blah and I was so torn. I really wanted them to go to a private Christian school... can't afford it. Frankly, the public schools scare me. I'm sure it would be fine, but honestly I don't want my kids to be subjected to things that would steal their innocence too early. Not saying it couldn't happen in a private school or even at church...

So with all that being said our Christian school is very open to the idea of homeschooling and they actually called me the morning after I prayed about everything and made the offer for my kids to come part-time and I would homeschool the other time. So the tuition was very doable. I still get to homeschool and they still get a structured based classroom setting. Maybe something you should look into?!

I will also say and I have heard it from many friends who homeschool... your husband has to be 100% supportive of the idea. Satan will use homeschooling against your family, any way he can and to be 100% together on this subject is a must in my book.

I'm looking forward to teaching my children and can't wait to start the school year :) Hope this helped and I don't mind talking more about it... you know where to reach me ;)

Trish said...

ok i tried to write a comment and blogger said it was too long and I lost it, so I will say after reading some of the other comments. I don't think homeschooled kids are isolated just because they are not in a typical classroom setting. There are so many options now a days for homeschoolers. Using daily life and activities as lessons is definitely not setting your kids up for failure for dealing with daily life and the issues that arise. In my opinion that is one of our jobs as a parent to include your child in life's issues and you know your child best and how to handle the situation. Anywho... I will try to remember everything I said and email it to you ;)

Bethany Hammar said...

I was homeschooled from pre-K through 12th and I loved it. My parents made the choice to homeschool me and my two siblings because when we were the age to start school my family live IN Detroit, MI. My parents did not want to send us to any public school in Detroit. Christian and private schools were too expensive so they choose to homeschool.
I was a very shy child so I enjoyed being at home, as I got older I became more social and wanting to do things.
One major question my family was always asked in regards to homeschooling was: "Are they socialized?"
Of course we were, my mom was very good at finding outlets for us and we easily made friends.
In so many areas there are groups to get involved with, these homeschool groups offer a support system of families who go through similar things. Many homeschool groups offer co-op classes or extra things such as music, sports or art.
I am a strong advocate for homeschooling, but only if it's done in "a right way". Homeschooling is not for everyone. I've known families whose children don't graduate until they are 19 or 20 because they were so involved in sports, music or they just got behind..in that case I would say they should have done something different.
I don't believe there is ONE right way to homeschool, but it can be a very effective form of education where your children will learn and be taught by your values and morals.
My mom did an excellent job, of course there were things she could have done differently and there were challenges along the way but I am glad she and my dad made the choice they did.

Through reading your blog I can tell that you are a great mom, it appears as though you would find many ways to do "hands-on" learning.
Trust in the Lord to guide you to the right decision, if you choose something and try it for awhile you can always try something else.

Bethany Hammar said...

I was homeschooled from pre-K through 12th and I loved it. My parents made the choice to homeschool me and my two siblings because when we were the age to start school my family live IN Detroit, MI. My parents did not want to send us to any public school in Detroit. Christian and private schools were too expensive so they choose to homeschool.
I was a very shy child so I enjoyed being at home, as I got older I became more social and wanting to do things.
One major question my family was always asked in regards to homeschooling was: "Are they socialized?"
Of course we were, my mom was very good at finding outlets for us and we easily made friends.
In so many areas there are groups to get involved with, these homeschool groups offer a support system of families who go through similar things. Many homeschool groups offer co-op classes or extra things such as music, sports or art.
I am a strong advocate for homeschooling, but only if it's done in "a right way". Homeschooling is not for everyone. I've known families whose children don't graduate until they are 19 or 20 because they were so involved in sports, music or they just got behind..in that case I would say they should have done something different.
I don't believe there is ONE right way to homeschool, but it can be a very effective form of education where your children will learn and be taught by your values and morals.
My mom did an excellent job, of course there were things she could have done differently and there were challenges along the way but I am glad she and my dad made the choice they did.

Through reading your blog I can tell that you are a great mom, it appears as though you would find many ways to do "hands-on" learning.
Trust in the Lord to guide you to the right decision, if you choose something and try it for awhile you can always try something else.

Jennie said...

You need to do what is right for your family & I'm not sure there is a 'right or wrong' choice here.
My two cents, for what they are worth.... Before I was a mom I was an elementary school teacher both in public and private school. I cannot begin to yell you how many parents asked me during conferences if we were talking about the same kid because the amazing, wonderful kid I was describing was not the same kid they saw at home. Teachers, good ones at least have a way of bringing put things in your kid that you as a parent can't or don't. Not because you are doing something wrong but because others have a way of bringing out differences in each of us. Good luck with your decision, it's not an easy one!

Holly said...

I really can't tell you why NOT to hmeschool because I just don't know enough about homeschooling to judge. My sone is starting kindergarten in a public school next week and we have been going to open houses and testings and such this week. I have really enjoyed seeing his excitement and interaction with other children at these events. Knowing that he seems really comfortable with the school and the teachers lets me know that we made the right choice for our family. I personally also enjoy the new friendships I am gaining with the other parents!

holoholomom said...

Wow! Great comments on both sides! Seems like the biggest question a parent faces is that we live in a world that has lots of bad stuff in it, but good stuff too, and how do we get our kids to get through that bad stuff not get poisoned by it all and take upon them what is good in the world. How do we bring up intelligent, virtuous, faithful, socially aware, emotionally well balanced, prepared for adulthood children? It was great reading posts from former homeschoolers to see their perspectives too. Looks like they turned out quite well adjusted by the tones of their comments! I think as parents we need to really see what works best in the situations we are placed in. Not everyone lives near great public schools or can afford private school. Not every parent has the endurance to not only train and nurture a child but provide them with the education they need for success in life. Not every child adjusts to institutionalized learning, and needs a more personalized approach, yet some children are highly competitive and thrive in a group setting where success is measurable to them. Ask yourselves the questions of where you and your child stand. Finally a word on homeschool children that are poorly adjusted socially- or nerdy: they are also to be found in public schools if you may recall. I think fear plays a large role in a child's social awareness. Many kids have a black and white view of the world, I think especially because parents don't want them to make mistakes, play with the wrong kinds of children, get into any kind of trouble. They want their family to look like the Norman Rockwell picture of the family sitting around the Thanksgiving Day table. If this is what you expect, your child may fear otherwise and become the nerd you hoped he would be. Sorry for the sarcasm, but love isn't about fear. Some of the most socially aware, outgoing and confident kids I have met have been home schooled. My own children are a testimony to this, as I have seen in their relationships with others, and their ability to handle the college and adult professional world.

chinaorbust2004 said...

Read The Harsh Truth About Public Schools by Bruce N. Shortt and then pray about your decision. I work from home and have just started homeschooling my 3rd & 4th graders. My work from home job is not a Tupperware or Avon type job either. I believe the Lord has asked me to teach my children. I am looking forward to learning along with them...
amy

chinaorbust2004 said...

oh, and as far as the socialization thing goes do you really want another 13 y/o (insert any age) from a family w/ questionable values being the main influence on your kid for 6-8 hrs/day. just my 2 cents...

sandandstarfish said...

I was home schooled for 1/2 a year back in the second grade. From what I understand, I was naughty. But I LOVED being home schooled! Maybe it was because my mom handed me my homework, went upstairs to take a bath and let me work alone in peace. Or maybe it was because another second grade friend and her momma met us at Hardee's every other morning for a serious play date. I'm probably no help to you. I apologize!

Anonymous said...

I was home schooled until high then when to a public school and I really enjoyed both. I feel like it gave me the best of both worlds and I still got to do all the "big" stuff like prom, dances, ect. While home schooling I was very involved in church activities and other local home school events so socially I did not feel behind. I was also very ahead academically when I entered high school. I think it is a beneficial thing for children if done correctly.

Dianna said...

A great lazy day meal for us is mussels marinara and corn on the cob.

{postscripted} designs said...

Baby wash in the baby pool= BRILLIANT. I'll be trying this tonight!

Diana said...

This is my 17th year homeschooling! I have 4 children, now ages 25, 23, 17, 13. I started homeschooling when my oldest was 8 --the oldest 2 graduated from homeschooling and are wonderful adults. My 23 yr old will soon be graduating from college. My 17 yr old will be taking dual enrollment freshman English at a university this year (she will have college credit while still in high school).

We have a wonderful support group of homeschoolers and my children all had many friends, both homeschool and public and private school friends. Rather than isolated, they have grown up immersed in the real world and life of the community, with opportunities for travel, working, volunteering that they would NEVER have been able to do if they attended a "brick" school. They have also been involved in all manner of sports, my 23 yr old was a competitive soccer player and would have had a sports scholarship for college but for suffering a severe ACL injury in her senior year.

My children have a great relationship with one another and interact with people of ALL ages. My 23 yr old came over this morning to take the 2 younger girls to the mall.

The main thing to keep in mind with homeschooling is that it is more than an educational choice -- it is a lifestyle. It is NOT sitting closed up in your house every day all alone for 7 hours doing worksheets! It's playing store with real change instead of filling out worksheets about money. It's creating a butterfly garden in your yard and putting in parsley (because that's where they lay eggs), and looking for the eggs, the caterpillars, the chrysalis etc. rather than just reading a book about it and coloring a picture. I could go on and on, but I'll stop now. Good luck with your decision. I know whichever you do your children will flourish because you are such a great mom!

Diana

Texas Gal said...

My take on it -- and of course you need to know that my point of view comes from the fact that there is a Catholic School that I feel 100% certain will educate my children VERY WELL -- is that I don't want to limit my child by only teaching what *I* know. I am a school teacher -- taught grades 1-5 over the course of 9 years and this revelation hit me after the passing of my father my very first year in the classroom. I had to be out of school for 2 weeks -- the first few days I was just *gone* and my sub had never met me, had never met my students or even subbed at my school. She had just gotten back from a trip to Spain and so she brought pictures, money, objects, etc and spent the first few days of my absence teaching them all about Spain and what she had learned while being there. I look back on that as such an amazing time -- my children were not even aware of what was happening in my life but were learning soooo much more than I could have taught them (not having been to Spain...) So I think a new teacher every year provides a new opportunity for children to learn outside of what we as parents know. I will NEVER stop teaching my child -- but when she is away from me, she will be learning from someone else who has had different experiences than I have had. All this is a comfort for me though -- because my sweet girl will be going to the school where I taught and I couldn't ask for a better learning environment for her. If things with the school were different I might go another direction with my thoughts -- LOL

Mary Elizabeth said...

we opted for private school where we live. public schools here are not the best. there are some great teachers there, but we knew it wasn't the environment we wanted our daughter in. of course home schooling is the option we opt for if ther comes a point we cannot afford to continue to send her to her private school. thankfully thi syear i have gotten a job at her school after being home for 7 years with her.

look into if there are other home school families where you live. we have a great community of them here and they are always doing special events together.

also might i suggest you look into maybe a christain academyor something where you live. that's also a great option. :)

elise said...

hey there!
i was both homeschooled and went to public school from 4-6th grade.
I am currently starting our second preschool year with our 3 year old Leland and our daughter Emory is tagging along.
Social aspect- there are awesome support groups/coops that you can get involved with and do sports/arts with, and assuming you go to church you will get plenty of healthy socialization there. there is also the option to do plenty of volunteering in the community with your kids so they are interacting with old and young alike and gleaning a heart for service too.

we are doing a combination of Sonlight and classical education. If you are at all interested you should read at least the first part of The Well Trained Mind.
It's not a matter of 'hiding your children from all the bad stuff in the world' its about training them to be able to communicate God to the world.

If you have a great public school in your area that's awesome! If you have an awesome private school that is affordable that's great!
In our area schools there are 2nd graders booty dancing to Snoopdog during their class party and 1st graders yelling the F word at their teachers. not the kind of socialization i'm hoping for, so i'm opting out. i also just see the long term results of classical education as so rewarding!
homeschooling isn't for everyone but as you say, God can certainly change your husband's heart.
My husband was public school his whole life and his mother works in the school district- has for 15 years. He was mr. charming, mr. popular basketball player/musician, who clowned his way through to graduation and then was ill prepared for college.
But of course there are kids who excel in public school. Bottom line- keep praying, keep reading!

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