I almost didn't write this post...mostly because I know that I will get flack for it...for being old fashioned and too conservative. But you know what...I feel like I am supposed to...and I tried to ignore that feeling...believe me...I ignored for as long as I could muster and then finally...just seconds ago I had to turn off my sewing machine and pull over the lap top. I feel the need to share.
I'm a big chunk into the Beth Moore book that is on my reading list...So Long Insecurity. And I am really loving it...way more than I thought I would...and it is kicking my butt. As I assumed that it would. But honestly...it has been invigorating and wonderful...and clicking with SO MANY THINGS that have been on my heart and mind right now...it's almost like I was supposed to be reading it right now? (wink, wink).
So really...this all started with Lebron James. You have him to thank for this...well maybe not him, but the media reaction to him and ridiculousness that followed his choice of where to take his career path.
If you know anything about me you know that sports could stop this very moment and it would take me a while to notice...at least until my husband got home from work. He is on the complete opposite side of the spectrum LOVES sports...the stats and numbers...the history and all that jazz.
But anyway...I am shocked that I still have eyeballs in my head...what with all the eye rolling that occurred as the media poured over Lebron's "betrayal". I don't even want to go completely in depth with it...but it was CRAZY. People were crying...and burning his jersey's and calling him a coward...people were threatening his friends and family...it was CRAZY. All because A MAN choose a path that he thought would be the most successful for his career. I mean has no one else from Cleveland ever moved to a different city to better his career? ...OH but Lebron is a CELEBRITY...I get it...that makes him better and more important...at least that is what the media tells us.
Forget the fact that time and time again, celebrities let us down. We let our little boys and girls look up to them as false "hero's"...only ending up having to explain why their hero decided to carry a gun...or use drugs...or beat a girlfriend...or deny being a parent.
But the media and society tell us repeatedly that they are better...more special...more like who we should be. And I feel that a society that lets celebrity dictate their feelings is one in desperate need of a Savior. THE real one. One that will never let us down.
And what does media do to women?
Oh geez...I can't even begin to explain all the frustration I have with it all...one thing is certain...it is partly because of this area that I am thankful to have two boys...not that that gets me off the hook in this area...more on that in a minute. But we, as women, are CONSTANTLY bombarded with images that we end up comparing ourselves to. The media tells us that we must be thin (this means size 2 or less)...and have such and such kind of hair...and such of such kind of clothes...and that ever leaving the house without make-up is a no-no. Basically...if you aren't prepared to be photographed and have your near naked photo hanging in the Victoria's secret window...then something is wrong with you. Just the thought makes me want to inhale a bag of peanut butter m&m's.
PUH-LEASE. I am so sick of the everyday woman not being praised and celebrated.
Celebrity is not real life. And, even though I cringe as I write this for the flack I will surely receive, if you can't leave the house in jeans and a tank top and NO make-up and STILL feel beautiful...there is a disconnect somewhere. God didn't design us to need anything BUT Him to feel good.
I am NOT saying that make-up and dressing up is bad...not at all. I am just saying you should also feel 100% without all that society says we need...and believe me, I am convinced that society indeed tells us we need all that extra to be beautiful and live up to some imaginary standard. It's a lie my friends. A lie. You indeed are beautiful, as you are. As God see's you.
But we tend to not believe that either right? Not even when those we love most tell us that we are beautiful when we feel least pretty.
I know that I am guilty of this. Sometimes I can't believe that my husband can look at me...having carried two babies and nursed them for 18m total...being a little weathered and weary...and still believe that I am beautiful...usually I tell him that we need to get his eye glass prescription checked.
But the reality is that I need to go back to our family rule that says "If someone pays you a compliment, you say thank you"...you don't dismiss it.
And what does the media do to our wonderful men? Oh, nothing but barrage them with stick thin models at every turn. Our society makes it SO hard on men to turn away from pornography...because with every day that passes...more and more is deemed socially acceptable.
What do you think would have happened to those Victoria Secret photos and ads back when TV began in the 50's?
How about NOT. Would never have happened...nearly naked women on a poster? They would never had heard of it because back then it was deemed indecent. And you know what...it still IS.
I hate when I have to walk by one of those stores with my family...my two precious boys and my ever faithful and loving husband. How is it we live in a society that makes that OK? You know how...because we live in a society that is constantly pushing the envelope on what is "OK". The media convinces us that men looking at pornography is no big deal...and even at times I have heard it deemed a "completely natural and normal need and action" for men to do so. Therefore we, as women, should just accept this proverbial third woman into our marriage...because after all..they can't help it right?
That doesn't fly in my marriage...and my husband 100% agrees.
Pornography sets men up to fail and women to not feel like they are good enough.
Oh...but don't you DARE think of nursing your baby in public...that is just indecent
(read sarcastically in reaction to a societal double standard).
Our minds, men and women, are a temple for the Lord. We are to fill our minds and thoughts with all that is good and right and uplifting. To focus on Him and anything that takes away from that clear and beautiful focus is hogwash...and needs to be deeply examined.
I am talking to myself here too. This is true for ALL areas of life. ANYTHING not lined up with Christ is detrimental. Period.
So I guess my ultimate question for us all is....how much control in how we think, feel, share, give is enough to give to society/media?
I for one, refuse to stand by and let society and media dictate my life. Unless you count the Bible as a media source...then I will confess to leaning heavily on that one.
I want to live in a society where the everyday is celebrated. Isn't that how it should be?
In my house...at the end of every day, good or bad...the second my husband and I walk out of the doors of our boys rooms, who we just tucked into bed...and usually high five for another successful (or at times having survived another)day of parenting. A celebration of the everyday.
Don't we praise our kids for the little everyday accomplishments?
Using the potty...sharing a toy...being kind.
Shouldn't we decide to do the same for each other and not let the media tell us what to celebrate?
Maybe not using the potty...but how about finishing the laundry...or cleaning out the attic...or making dinner for a friend...or throwing surprise birthday party...letting someone with cranky kids go ahead of you in line...
I don't know about you...but those things rank higher in my day than 99% of what is in the media.
I mean, finishing the laundry? Come on...that is AWESOME.
How about you?
Ok...I'm done with my rant. As usual I would LOVE to hear your feedback...your kind feedback that is. Negative, cowardly anonymous comments will not be read or published.
Back to your regularly scheduled program. :)