I mentioned before that I am reading Beth Moore's "So Long Insecurity".
Unless you are part of the minority of women who have NO insecurity issues...then I highly suggest that you read it...to say it has been phenomenal is an understatement. So many of the points she makes and how she shares them have me screaming "YES!!!" in my head of course (I don't want anyone thinking I am crazy---hehehe)
There is SO much I want to share with you about this book...so many thoughts are racing through my brain that I can hardly contain them but I thought that I would start with four points that she makes about the "quick" path to security. So you don't have to wait until you get to this chapter of the book I thought I would share them...since I truly feel the same way and could have written them in much the same manner myself.
The points are hers...the discussions are mine with her influence.
Once again I realize that this may just be a journal post for me...and that is ok.
Some ways to start on the path to being a SECURE woman draped in dignity.
1)Stop making comparisons.
We are each made in the beauty of God's eye. Each with our own set of plans, skills, abilities and everything. Why why why do we as women feel such a need to size each other up? Admit it...you walk into a room full of women and mentally start to compare hair, clothes, weight, height, how their kids are dressed and behaving, etc. WHY do we make our own brand of crazy like this? You wouldn't go to the market and compare the price of apples to cucumbers and then go on to complain that one is red and one is green...that one is sweet and one is not. Right? And why? Because they are two totally different things...meant for two totally different purposes. And it would be crazy to compare them like that. What makes comparing ourselves to other women any less crazy?
Let's make a deal. I will working on it if you will. I will walk into a room with my OWN skills and looks and abilities and be confident that God did not make a mistake with me. We cannot be compared to another for there is no other like us.
2) Start personalizing other women.
I think it is SO easy to forget that we are all in this together. That there is NOTHING that we can go through that someone has not already. As moms and women we have all struggled with the same issues...though some to more of a degree than others in different areas. Then why do we find it so easy to forget the details of being human in that we all have feelings, dreams, cares, loves, hates, joys and sorrows and struggles. I think if we can project THOSE thoughts onto others we would be making a HUGE leap into cementing our own security. As in...seeing another woman (person) and our first thought being something like "I wonder what they are dealing with today...what are they happy about...what is bringing them down".
I choose to remember this by the following scripture:
The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful.
1 Corinthians 10:13
And God's word does not lie to us.
3) Don't trip another woman's insecurity switch.
Oh my goodness...this one makes me crazy because it happens so much. It KILLS me to see women doing this to each other. And not only do women to it to other women...but truly our society does it to women (and men) all the time...via our culture. Just think Victoria's Secret, or magazine ads or R rated movies. There are things everywhere that are set and waiting to prick at our insecurities. But society at large is one thing...woman to woman is another matter.
Not tripping another woman's insecurity switch includes shying away from things like...dressing provocatively(um always)...especially if you are going out with friends and their spouses...flaunting your wealth in front of friends you know are struggling...basically we as women(and humans) need to watch out for each other and avoid setting up a situation where we will make others feel out of sorts and insecure.
Beth does point out, and I agree, that some people will feel insecure no matter the lengths you go to avoid it...and that is there battle to deal with.
The bottom line has to be, in every situation, did we do everything we could to a healthy extent to for everyone to perform at their highest capacity? Did we act in love? We were looking our for others and not the cheap thrill of attention getting actions?
AAAhhhh...I love it.
4)We must be examples of secure women.
This is a sort of "change starts with us" point. If we want to influence a culture of confident, secure women...then it has to start with us. The same as anything else...want some light? BE a light.
It's that simple.
And that my friends...is just a glimpse at the awesomeness that is this book...I am going to read it again and again I know...it is that important. I don't plan on losing another day believing lies that aren't true...as Beth states:
"We are surrounded by a superficial world making deceptive claims".
I don't know if a truer statement could be said about our present day culture. And I, for one, will not be buying into it any longer.
As always...would love your feedback if you would like to share...if you act ugly anonymously...you will be ignored. :)