Choose the ending.

Can I be perfectly honest here?

I am wading through some really ugly emotions.  Anger, hopelessness, impatience...Yucky, draining, heavy things that are just trying their best to drag me to the bottom of some emotional abyss that could take me months to pull myself out of.

I'm tired of worrying about how others will feel about me still being "in the feels" about some things.  I am weighed down by the lies told about me and others and it eats at me.  I am tired of being told to get over it, to move on, to be patient.  Not that those aren't right things, but I am tired of being pried from my emotions as though they are something wrong with me.  My yearning is for things to be made right, genuinely for the health of myself AND OTHERS. (only recently could I add those last two words).  

I was told a couple of years ago now that "God doesn't change His mind" (which is full on crap) about things.  At this particular time this person was referring to me leaving a church.  Now, it seems, that only applies to me.  Because apparently God changes His mind about everything else.  He has changed His mind about a destiny, about a future, about leadership, about living arrangements, about any number of things that have now been deemed too much of a "hardship".

I'm also tired of cowardly behavior from people who should know better.  I'm tired of waiting for justice and redemption.  I'm exceedingly tired of people not willing to listen or hear truth.  Any fool who bases an opinion on someone based solely on words from someone's mouth is a fool indeed.  Any leader who bans adults from speaking to other adults is a coward.  A keeper of secrets is a keeper of deception.  Control and fear should never lead the way.  Transparency and honesty are needed cornerstones of any healthy life or business.   

Learning to be like Jesus and take hits on the chin is exhausting work.  But I am surrounded by beautiful people doing it every day.  People who, in the face of ugly words spoken about them still reach their hand out to love.  I am learning from them.  They are stretching me.  But it is not fun.  I am desperate to reach out and beg for truth to be spoken, yet have not felt released to do so.  I am once again hearing Him telling me to "wait". 

I have learned a hard lesson these past two years, truly loving others in the face of spewed hatred is hard work.  It does not come naturally or easily, it has to be a choice we make each and every moment of our daily existence.

We have to CHOOSE the character we 
want and not the flesh that we feel!    

I've been unfortunate enough to learn that we can expect bad behavior from anyone at anytime.  Our only recourse, our best defense, our only source of hope is to go into battle knowing who WE want to be at the end of the day.  

Decide the outcome first and go forward second.  

What do we want to go sleep at night with? A clear conscience or an aggravated soul?  

In the meantime I wait.  Willing to speak truth openly and honestly, knowing that my character has led my way, even in my exhaustion, even at my lowest point.  I have no story to keep straight and my conscience is clear. 

So I'll keep taking it in the chin as long as I am told to do so and loving each soul in my path until He makes it right again. 




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Kids and Teeth {and a chance to win $100!}


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Teeth.

Kid teeth to be specific.

When you have kids, one of the many, many things that no one ever teaches you about yet you are expected to know how to care for, understand the process of and be successful at ushering into adulthood-style teeth, is teeth!

I got lucky with my first son. I was a normal, overly excited and zealous first time mom.  We started brushing his teeth from the moment one tiny corner popped through his gums and we never stopped.  We were diligent and he was a routine based kid who reminded us when it was time to do anything... brushing teeth was no exception.  He sailed right into well-established adult teeth with no problem.  All with sheer luck, though at the time we just chalked it up to being excellent first time parents. ;)

Then came our next child, whose teeth and habits could not be more different than his brother. I think we half-heartedly started brushing his teeth, at some point. It's not that we didn't try, but based on his brother we thought it just came easily. We brushed and flossed and fluoridated.  We bought the regular kids toothpaste and did our due diligence.  The outcome was very different. 

What I wish we knew was how to care for his teeth beyond the normal toothpaste. We had never heard about which foods led to enamel erosion and that kids like my son were more prone to wear than others, because of his already soft enamel. Over time and hard lessons we learned things we hadn't known, like just how bad for your mouth sports drinks, crunchy foods and those little mandarin oranges my son loved so much were.  Since we learned the hard way, I've been on a mission to share our knowledge with other parents before they have to learn the hard way, too! It doesn't have to be overwhelming or hopeless! With a little info and the right products you can set yourself up for success better than we did.
We've learned a lot and hopefully gotten on the right track.  We have a great pediatric dentist and we really pay attention to what is being eaten on a regular basis AND we are very picky when it comes to toothpaste.  We will only (now) buy toothpaste that helps protect enamel from cavities and everyday acids; that offers tooth protection into the future and gets the okay from our dentist.  We pay attention to what we use, wanting to make the best possible choice, and ProNamel® 6-12 Years Toothpaste for Kids is an easy choice you can make. It is the #1 dentist recommended brand for strengthening and protecting enamel.   
As a parent you want to know that you are making the best possible choices and using the best possible products for your kids.  You want to be encouraged by other parents who have been there and done that. Research, read and study.  Ask questions and get ahead of the game.  You can do it and now here's one chip in your corner. :)
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