dealing with conflict {lessons I've learned}

I've been quiet around here lately and here is why: I've been dealing with a large conflict for the last six or seven months.  It's been quite a mammoth undertaking and my heart is literally broken over it.  My people are hurting, I'm hurting.  The ache in my chest is SO deep that all I can do with it on a daily basis is hand it to Him and pray He uses it for good.  {hint: HE IS}.     

As with any of my life experiences, I am hopeful that by sharing my heart, it will help someone else walk through the same things, maybe even a little better than I have.  {my favorite part of this "job" of mine is hearing from YOU and all the ways God has allowed me to share a bit of this walk with you!}  These lessons can help us all walk through any kind of conflict with grace and love for one another. 

Here are some lessons I will carry with me forever thanks to this experience and they kind of all work together: 

~Keep your mouth quiet, whenever possible.  Hurt people talk a lot.  Be a listener whenever you can.  Sometimes people just need to get it out to encourage healing.  It's amazing the healing power of being listened to.  A split or conflict causes pain all around, compassionately tend to all who are hurt.
       

Proverbs 17:27-28
The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.  Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent and discerning if they hold their tongues.

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~Flee from negativity.  I have learned the hard way that negative speak will drown out the voice of the Father faster than anything else.  Negativity cocoons us like a web.  Hurt people can be very negative, it's often an instinctual reaction.  Do what you can to steer people away from this path.  Encourage others to seek the best in everyone.  Remind them about the style of talk Jesus participated in and BE an example of such talk.  {and remind yourself if need be!}.  

Proverbs 17:14
The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out. 

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~Seek Him out!  His voice is the one that matters.  You may need to fight for this because the enemy loves chaos and a split is the perfect soil for chaos to grow.  Dig into the word even more than you ever have.  Remember that God can use all things for His purposes and with that knowledge, move forward with JOY that He sees all and is already orchestrating good.

Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

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Don't choose sides, choose Jesus, choose His people.  In the midst of conflict, it's hard not to choose sides.  We want to know who is RIGHT or WRONG.  Often there are no clear lines (sometimes there are) but at the end of the day, it's not as important as walking out in LOVE towards one another.  You will never regret love, you will often regret choosing a side.  We are all children of God, part of the same family.     

1 Corinthians 1:10 
My dear friends, as a follower of our Lord Jesus Christ, I beg you to get along with each other. Don’t take sides. Always try to agree in what you think.     

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Go after the stray sheep.  Church issues will cause people to leave church forever because they are faced with the reminder that churches are full of people and people are not perfect.  Do what you can to go after them, perhaps your seeking them out will remind them of the true Church (with a capital C) and will help them heal and return to church sooner than later.   Be the Church when the church is having trouble.

Matthew 18:12 
If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off?


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We are all sinners.  Go forward in that knowledge with GRACE and love.  We all suck as people sometimes.  Seriously.  We cannot shake a finger at anyone because we fail ALL THE TIME.  If He does not hold our sins against us, how can we hold them against one another?      

Romans 3:23  
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.  

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When in doubt, choose love.  Feeling bogged down by the conflict?  Can't think straight?  Do the next loving thing you can think of and then the next and then the next and then the next and slowly but surely that will turn into a rope that will pull you out. Love wins every time.  

Mark 12:31 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these.  

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I'm sure there is more to come in time, as I continue to walk this out but for now this is all I feel He would have me share.  My prayer is that it will bless you in some way that you need.  He knows the deep aches of our hearts and is faithful to tend to them.  Run to Him and see.  

xo   

Worship Wednesday: Bible Journaling Cards {free scripture mini-printables}

This week I thought I would do something a little different.  The printable this week is from some of my favorite "verse of the day" posts from Instagram {littlebitfunky}, shrunk down and useable for hanging on your mirror, tucking in a card or adding to your journaling bible!  They are formatted to be 2.5in by 2.5 each! :)

I hope you enjoy them!  Print them off and share with a friend! Happy Wednesday! 
You can download the file HERE. :) Enjoy and share! :)
Hello friends!  I've been so immersed in all the fun new ways God is blessing my business that I barely seem to have to share it all!  This year is proving to be much more than I could have hoped for and every day I am excited to wake up and see what it holds! :)  One of the most exciting parts to me has been bible journaling.  Not only has it blessed my walk with Him IMMENSELY but it has also opened avenues of business for me.  He allows me to play a small part in the walks of others and I am so humbled by that.  It's a true blessing getting to mix my business and faith all together!
In case you don't follow me on Instagram (littlebitfunky) here is an action shot of the journaling bible tote I make! (You can find all the info for this and lots of the products you see here at the "bible tote" tab above).  Mine stays pretty packed! 
This is currently one of my favorite things to make!  It combines three of my favorite things...sewing, photos and words!  This is a generous sized pouch and it's custom made with your photo and words of choice. 
How fun would these be for Mother's Day gifts?! :) (you can email me to order at crystal@littlebitfunky.com)
I mean, I can't even handle the precious.  
They are available in any of these awesome colors! I LOVE this print! 
Having these totes pass through my sewing machine is such an honor.  When I remember to, I pray for the items I make and their new owners.  It's such an honor to think of all the bible studies they will accompany! 
Here are some new fabrics choices I am offering! :)

I hope your Friday is just FULL of blessings (hint: it is, you just have to find them!).

xo

worship wednesday - great is thy faithfulness


Hooray!  Another week of Worship Wednesday printables!  I hope you are enjoying them!  This weeks is sized as an 8 by 10 {and is much clearer than this image is showing for some reason}.

Happy mid-week to you!

Download this file HERE.

bible journaling inspiration {and how to get started!}

Gosh, I've loved Jesus for almost twenty years now and I tell you, Bible journaling has made it ALL fresh and new to me.  It's like seeing the word in a whole new, creative way.  The best part is that there is no wrong way to do it!  Just open the bible, grab a pen and get started!  There are no rules or how-tos, you just do!  Here's a link to all the info you need to get started, including what bible I use, where to get supplies and how to get a journal bible tote all your own!    
Here are a few of my current favorite pages! You can follow me on IG for regular inspiration {littlebitfunky} or my business account at {littlebitfunkysews}.  





As you can see...it's all good.  It's about connecting to God in a way that speaks to your heart!  I use paint and paper and tape and some of the boy's homework.  Whatever speaks to you...add it and embellish it! :)

worship wednesday {spirit lead me - oceans}

Happy Wednesday to you! 

I hope you like the look of the place now! My sweet friend over at "Life Made Lovely" was kind enough to help me spruce the place up!  She is beyond phenomenal and amazing to work with!  If your corner of the web needs a little help, I could not recommend her more!

And moving on to this weeks "Worship Wednesday"!  This week is inspired by one of my current favorites (and probably yours too!)...Oceans!

Every time I sing or read these lyrics I think, "And help me mean it, too!" because what we are asking the Lord to do in these words SCARY! Right? 

This week I made them to fit four to a page, easy to print, cut out and hang {or share!} anywhere we need a reminder that Him leading us out of our comfort zones is a GOOD thing! 
You can download the file HERE. Enjoy and pass it on! :)
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