I was Josh Duggar's Victim. {a different perspective}.


Not literally his victim but for all intents and purposes, yes, we are the same person.  I was molested by both a teen peer and a family member.  More on that in a moment.   

I opted out of watching the news years ago.  The agony of witnessing a broken world was too much for me to handle on a regular basis.  So, news takes many layers to get to me and I avoid regular contact with the heartbreak of living in a fallen world (at least as far as the news is concerned).  Even with my self made barrier, I cannot get away from the Duggar tragedy.  It is everywhere.  Being waved as a flag of proof and pride of Christians and non-Christians alike.  The level of which people are taking joy in showing off how good they are in comparison to those Christians is sickening and sorrow inducing.  

This is not a Christian issue.  It is not a Conservative or Republican or Democrat issue.  This is not an issue that should be used as an "AH HA!!" moment.  It should not be used as a way to prove that Christians are messed up.  We are.  Ok?  Every Christian I have ever known is messed up on some level or another.  Each of us is knee deep in our own muck and mess and mire.  In fact, ALL people are messed up.  Not a single one of us can stand on our own virtue.  For what it's worth, I don't line up with much of what the Duggars believe is necessary to love Jesus well but different strokes and all.    

Any Christian worth their salt will be quick to tell you that we all suck as people.  The best Christian in all the land is still a pretty terrible human being.  That's the point of Jesus. 

My disclaimer goes here: I am not in anyway saying that what Josh did was OK or should not have been dealt with appropriately.  I do not wish to excuse it or sweep it under the rug.  It was wrong.  Period.

I do feel that those who are thirsty for the blood of Christians or eager to put themselves above another Christian are failing to remember something.  This was not a perpetrator.  This was a 14 year old boy.  A sheltered, 14 year old boy at that.  Not a grown man. 

Since this story broke I've thought often about every 14 year old boy that I know and whether they would understand the consequences of such actions.   How many would understand the full ripple effect?  None that I can think of, and I know some pretty great young men.  Knowing right from wrong is different than understanding WHY it is right and wrong.  You need life experience to teach you the why.

I've also thought about how heartbreaking it is that the victims of such a tragedy are being violated all over again.  Do people not realize that if the victims wanted to drag him through the mud, they could have years ago?  Being molested IS a shame inducing act.  I'm not saying it should be, but it IS.  It's something that is not eagerly discussed and many of us victims would rather not have it dragged through the papers and online and put in the face of everyone who can read, against our will.  The media has taken away their ability to be anonymous for the goal of shaming someone who has by all appearances gone forward and tried to do better.  We as a society BEG for rehabilitation but offer NO GRACE on the other side of those who have tried to do just that.  

I am sure these victims are feeling some form of mortification.  I am voluntarily sharing my story and fighting off the urge to delete all of this and go back into hiding with it IN SHAME

I've also thought a lot of my experience as a victim of teen boy.  Before I moved out of my parents house, I was molested on several occasions.  By several people.  The elements of my childhood made me a perfect victim {aloof parents focused on their own tragedies the main element that made me eligible). 

And this may come as a shocker.  I wish my "perpetrator" (for lack of a better word) in this incident, no ill will.  If I could identify him and if there were no statute of limitations and I could prove what he did and know he would be punished, I would be the first on my knees in front of the judge begging for his mercy.   Especially if his adult self had made amends, had counseling, turned his life around and lived a repenting life.  I think it says a lot that Josh sat down with a girl he hoped to marry and her parents and confessed to his prior sins.  How much did you confess in this way?  I'm not saying I want to be his best friend or even see him, but he can go on about his life with no obligation of downtrodden-ness from me.   

Why do I not wish my victimizer punished?  Because as an adult woman I understand that he was a stupid young teenager doing something that he had no idea would perpetuate the issues that it did.  Did he know right from wrong? Yes.  Did he understand the consequences of his actions? I'm guessing no.  For many reasons.  He was young.  So young.  An undeveloped brain and surging hormones are not the path to steady, sound decision making.  He was not a bad kid as I recall.  A normal boy in a normal neighborhood.  Not a monster or a pervert.  Just a kid exceptionally stupid at the time.  

We've all experienced the effects of out of control hormones.

Doug and I have been together for over ten years.  One of the ONLY fights I can recall occurred when I was pregnant.  I KNEW my hormones were in control of mouth and actions.  I knew it but I could not stop it.  We fought over him taking too long in the shower and my hair drying in the process.  As I yelled at him my inner voice yelled at me "WHAT ARE YOU DOING STUPID!?!" to which my crazy self yelled back "SHUT UP" and wrapped that sensible girl in duct tape.  My point being, hormones (and the environment they are in at times) CAN make us much stupider than we tend to be on a normal day.

I do NOT think these kinds of actions should go unpunished but having been a social worker I have learned a lot about a few things.  One of which is that our system is not set up to help boys in these positions get back on track.  They are labeled and housed and become self-fulfilling prophesies.  (not always but often).  Like I said earlier, as a society we beg for lawmakers to offer solutions like rehabilitation but then go on to treat people no differently if they take that route.  The system is not set up to help people succeed.  The system is set up to punish and confine.  That does not solve this particular problem.   

Another thing I've learned, this could be your son.  There is no set formula for avoiding this in your own family.  You can't pick out in a class photo who will do something like this.  It's not always the animal abusing, snaggle toothed kid that smells like ketchup.  Sometimes it's the polite boy who loves Jesus.  We all need to move forward in a way that considers how much grace and love and support we would need to get through something like this the best we can because the reality IS that it could be your son.  We need to be part of creating an environment that HELPS the victims heal and the victimizers understand AND do better.   

I do think that these kinds of incidents should be addressed in such away as to help these boys become aware and understand fully what they have done, how to move forward appropriately and make amends for what they have done.  Positive, helpful, reformative actions need to occur for the sake of all involved. 


I guess I just don't get the point of shaming him to the detriment of his victims.  What would be a just punishment?  Death?  No further blessing or comfort in life.  Are you also prepared to pay for what your stupid youthful self did forever and always no matter how you've changed or grown or made amends?


I know that personally, I am thankful that I am NOT even kind of the same person I was before 20 AND that I escaped the life defining consequences of all the stupid things I did as a teenager.  I am a grateful mess for the grace extended to me, which makes me all the more eager to extend it to others.  Finger wagging and shaming and self-righteousness does nothing to help the problem, Christians or not.  Admittance of sin and failure can start us on the right path to unity but there is a severe need to get over ourselves and the delusion that we are any better first.

Hello, my name is Crystal, I suck as a human and fail as a follower of Jesus every minute of my life.  I'm thankful for forgiveness and grace to fill in the gaps where I am too stupid to help myself.  I'm here to tell you that all Christians suck at life.

That's the point of Jesus. 


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How to make a backyard putting green! {DIY putting green}

This holiday weekend we made a little backyard dream come true.  It was easy enough, just a lot of manual labor required. :)  The results though, were even better than we had hoped for and I thought I would do a quick "how to" in case you wanted to pull this off for Father's Day! The total cost was around $100.

Here are some things you need (all supplies from Lowe's):
astro turf (we used a 19 by 6ft piece)
weed mat pins (shaped like a U found where you would get the weed stop paper)
two bags of pea gravel
two bags of fine sand 
eight bags or so of top soil
three 4in pvc pipes (we found them in the odds and ends section of the pvc)
a bag of mulch
plants/greenery as desired
 First we designed our shape with a hose then spray painted an outline using that as a guide.
 Cat assistance optional.
 Then we dug a little trench around the whole thing so we would have a good lip to tuck the turf into.  Then we tried to slice off the top layer of grass without disturbing the dirt too much.  We wanted the grass to be gone, but the dirt to not be "un compacted".  I didn't get a photo of that, but image what it would look like if you shaved the grass.  

Then we added top soil, more where it was needed to be level and less where it was already good.  I used a dirt rake to make it as smooth as possible, removing any large clumps, rocks, etc.  Then (you could rent a "tamper" here and do it that way but we didn't want to spend that money) we used large pieces of scrap plywood to compact the dirt.  We would lay the board down and stomp/jump/step on it.  Acting like a human tamper.  We did that several passes over the whole thing.  Then we wet it down with a hose and did it again.  Our goal was to make it smooth and not necessarily level.  We kept up this process until we could walk across it without making dips in the dirt. 

Now, I didn't get a photo of this either but before we laid the carpet we dug out holes for our cups.  I let Doug decide the best place for those, we made sure our cups fit and then took them out to lay the carpet.
 Then we rolled out our carpet and trimmed to shape, leaving a hang over the edge.  Then we started at one end with out staples, went to the other end to pull it tight and then went around the whole thing, pulling it tight as we stapled it down.   
 Then we added landscaping as appropriate and done!
 Doug was really pleased with the results and now he will be able to get some practice in in our own back yard. 

We used this tutorial as a guide when we needed it.  Hope that helps! :) Have fun making your own!

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Chipotle worthy recipes {how to make a mexican feast!}

So recently I made lunch for a group of folks from church, many of which are of hispanic origin, all of which raved about how good my food was.  One such gentleman complimented me on how great my guacamole was saying "not many people have the touch to make it this way, but you do!" and his wife, also from Mexico repeatedly told me that it was as good as if she had made it.

So.  With that, I needed to get these recipes archived. :)   And come down from my compliment high.

I really do enjoy cooking fresh, yummy food so it serves my heart well when it is well received and appreciated.  It really is worth the time and effort to make things from scratch.   With all that said, here are the recipes I used (and altered to suit myself).

Chipotle Style Rice

2 cups rice (I used regular white rice)
Salt to taste
1 bay leaf
2 tablespoons finely chopped cilantro
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice (I used one of those little bottles)
1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice (I used one of those little bottles)

Cook rice according to the directions on the box.  Adding bay leaf to the water.  
Stir in cilantro, lime juice, and lemon juice. Salt to taste.


Chipotle Chicken Marinade (makes two cups for ten pounds - freeze half and save)

¼ c. Ancho Chili Pepper powder
1 (7 oz.) can chipotle peppers in adobo sauce
1 red onion, coarsely chopped
6 cloves garlic
2 teaspoons cumin
2 teaspoons dried oregano
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
1/4 cup canola oil, plus more for oiling the cooking surface
5 lbs. boneless, skinless chicken breasts


Using a food processor, add just the liquid part of the can of chipotle peppers, (I put it in a strainer and pressed everything I could out.  That should result in about a 1/4c of sauce) and add in all of the other ingredients until a paste forms.  Add half of that and five pounds of chicken to a freezer bag or a bowl, turning chicken to coat.  Refrigerate overnight.  Grill like you would regular chicken breasts.

Chipotle Guacamole (from Chipotle)
2 ripe Hass avocados
2 tsp lime juice
2 tbsp cilantro (chopped)
1/4 cup red onion (finely chopped)
1/2 jalapeƱo, including seeds (finely chopped)
1/4 tsp kosher salt

Avocados should feel squishy yet firm (like the palm of your hand), and be a nice dark green color on the inside.
  Cut the avocado in half and the remove the pit. Scoop the avocados and place in a medium bowl.
  Toss and coat with lime juice.
  Add the salt and using a fork or potato masher, mash until a smooth consistency is achieved.
  Fold in the remaining ingredients and mix well.

Guacamole should be made fresh as close to the time of the event as possible.  When/if you have to store it, lay a piece of plastic wrap directly on the surface of the guac to prevent it from turning dark green.  




Pepper and onions
¼ c. olive oil
2 large green peppers sliced
2 medium red onions, sliced
½ teaspoons dried oregano
½teaspoons of salt

In a large skillet, heat the oil over medium-high heat until shimmering. Add the peppers, onions, oregano, and salt.  Heat until slightly softened but still tender-crisp, about 7 minutes.


Chipotle Style Tomato Salsa

3-4 tomatoes cubed
½ red onion, diced
¼ jalapeno, diced
3-4 tablespoons of chopped cilantro
2-3 tablespoons of lime juice
¼ teaspoon salt

Combine ingredients, tossing gently.  Sprinkle with salt and lime juice.  Allow some refrigeration for flavors to gel together. 


I hope you enjoy these recipes as much as I will and have!! The guacamole is excellent on a burger. :)

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Looking for the Happy and Celebrating the Good this Mother's Day {& enter to win $100!}



Now that we’re in between the Mother's Day and Father’s Day season, we owe it to ourselves to walk away from this holiday looking for all the good there is to be celebrated around us.  Look past what may not be the way you like and choose to see the good. The single mom working hard for her family, the new mom trying to figure it all out, the recent grandma experiencing motherhood in a whole new way.  There is still so much to be celebrate should we choose to do so.
I try to choose to continue to celebrate.  That option writes a new story for my boys and their families in the future.  That option sets my family up for joy and hope in our current lives.  That option helps me move into the future and move forward creating happy new memories that will eventually snuff out the less than ideal.   That option allows for grace and the enjoyment of reality despite whether it's picture perfect or not.
A huge key to this method being a success?  Letting go of perfection.  The perfect day just won't happen but you can find perfect moments in the day.  Look at the intention and maybe not the execution.  Let go of ANY expectations and just settle into whatever the day will bring.  Enjoy the handmade cards or short stemmed flowers picked by chubby hands.  
Focus on your ability to be a mother in whatever facet you have been able to do so.  Look around you for mothers who may need a hand or a hug or a card and some flowers.  I have found that focusing on the moms around you and celebrating them, turns Mother's Day into an everyday kind of holiday I want in my life.  Reach out to the friend who has always wanted children, include her in your plans for a day -- celebrate your husband’s Mom or your best friend’s mom for all the ways she has been there for you.  
This Father's Day, find the men who mentor you, father or not.  Find the men who pour into your children with time and attention and celebrate their role.  Some years I have just taken an inventory of the men in my life who are good fathers and sent them a card to say so, whether they "father" me in any way or not.  Look for the men who need a little encouragement and take it upon yourself to do so.  
The way it goes, many of us are not necessarily blessed with amazing parents but if we adjust our approach to these holidays, we will find that we all have something to celebrate.
It all comes down to this....these are YOUR holidays so you can make them be what you want!  You can make the rules and you can choose the focus.  Let’s celebrate all mothers and fathers, every day. There are many and much to be celebrated if we choose to focus on all the ways we are blessed and not on the ways we are not.
We can all dig deep and find the good, because it's there, regardless of our past, our present or our future.
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From the time my boys were old enough to eat real food, Pepperidge Farm® Goldfish® crackers have been a staple in my house.  Starting from the days where we doled out handfuls, through to becoming a regular part of what we called "trail mix" (a mix of Goldfish crackers, toasted o's and puffs) and now, as an everyday part of their lunch at school that they have come to expect.  Goldfish crackers are a happy childhood element in our home. 

Goldfish crackers have accompanied us on many a park adventure, walks around the block, road trips, field trips, trips to Grandma's house, egg hunts, stockings stuffed and beyond.  I have found Goldfish crackers and their crumbs in every crevice of my car, our strollers and life because they are a constant.  I remember creating quiet shopping trips by handing a container full of Goldfish crackers to one of my toddlers in a stroller and being able to shop in peace as a result.  Or being able to bribe a child into obedience with one of those little containers you can buy at most checkouts.  Outside of diapers and bottles, I would say they are the most constant of memories in this household.  

A regularly requested snack... Goldfish crackers.  A real treat? Any variety outside of our usual "whole grain".  My kids get the biggest kick out of buying any of the sweet variety or the special colored ones.  It really wasn't until this campaign opportunity that I realized that Goldfish crackers really are a big part of my kids' childhood and definitely the most often purchased snack item.  Just thinking about writing this post I realized all the memories tied to this snack food.  I recall watching Goldfish crackers lined up for parades across the table, sorted into color groups, being used to learn counting and so much more.  

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you are not a snowflake {lessons in eight years of handmade business}

Hello friends!

I'm coming up on eight years of running this little business of mine.  EIGHT YEARS! How crazy is that? Just six months shy of how long I've been a mother.  And honestly, I don't which event I would claim to have taught me more about being a good person.

I've learned so much these last eight years.  I've connected with strangers all over the globe.  I've been blessed by women I only know online.  I've been encouraged and lifted up in prayer.  I've made some great friends that I never would have known had it not been for this adventure.  On the same note, I've also been hurt by strangers.  I've been accused of things I didn't do and sent ugly emails and been misunderstood.

Having an online job puts you in this weird position of being subject to "anonymous online".  Where people think they can say and do whatever because they have been able to disconnect the person on the receiving end of their words from personhood.  Not many jobs allow that kind of disconnect.  The results of this unique kind of job have led to some good lessons for me.  Over time, I've slowly been able to learn how to maximize the good and minimize the bad with a few simple realizations that did not come so simply to me {we are talking about an eight year learning curve here}. 

I hope you don't mind if I share them.  

1} You are not a unique snowflake.   One of my favorite Mike Rowe isms.  Living a creative life leads creative folks down this path to believing that we are more unique and special than we really are.  I've seen it, I've done it, we are not that great or different from one another on the surface.  We like to think that what we DO makes us unique and special and a new kind of creative.  It doesn't.  It's HOW we do.  It's when we learn to settle into our style and recognize it for what it is that we really learn creative freedom.  As cliche and hippy loving as it sounds {and I say that with total love}, it's really not until we find comfort in our sameness does our ability to be unique come through.  We HAVE to stop caring about what other people are doing to find true peace in creating.  Jealously and peace cannot coexist.   We are all in this together.  

"The acts of the flesh are obvious: ...jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions  and envy; and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:19-23 {abbreviated}
  
2} There is a huge difference between copying and drawing inspiration.  One is stealing and one is part of being creative.  Over the years this has been a constant source of hurt and growth at the same time.  This ties into the arrogance that comes when we think we are completely unique and special and THEN we feed that idea until it becomes a monster.  I've recently come to the conclusion that the number of times I think I have been copied is way less than the actual amount of times I have been copied.  If I am being honest, most times were likely just inspiration.  Partly because my pins and products are so popular on pinterest and partly because people just want to make things.    

I was sinfully NOT assuming the best in people and arrogantly thinking that I was unique enough to be copied. 

I was wrong.

Part of being a creative person is to inspire others.  That is truly part of the joy of making.

Now I am not saying that there are not people who set out TO copy.  There just are.  But there is a choice in your reaction to them {see number three below}.

I am also not claiming that you can't be copied.  Photos, artwork, words, very easy to prove when you have been copied.  Also very easy to protect legally.  The fact is, the pool of things you can protect legally is very small so we have to go out into our creative worlds and act accordingly.

Go to Etsy.com and look at most of the listings there.  Most of those things cannot be protected legally from copying.  There are a million ways to make a millions things and creative people will make those things.  You cannot lay claim to them.  You just can't.  People are going to make all the things.  I know because I am that way too.  Yes, I mostly make monsters.  But I also love to make totes and pouches and pillows and necklaces and quilts and headbands and all the things.  Literally.  It is a driving force in me that I cannot control.

We don't own the right to all the things.  When it comes down to it, people will buy from you because they love YOU.  They've connected with you and been inspired by you.  The more you let go, the freer creative juices will flow.   Be you and that attracts the people who will support you.  Breathe fire and you'll only burn those around you.

More than once I have had makers get in a huff because I have made something from the same FREE tutorial (that is not theirs) that they use to make items and sell.  Yes, using someone else's idea, making the thing, selling the thing and then being a complete snot because other people want to do the same thing.  Crazy yes? It didn't matter to them that I was making it my own way, with my own supply choices and style.  Nope.  "MINE!!" is the response.  Ew.  Not ok.

"What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun."  Ecclesiastes 1:9



3} Never confront someone online about being inspired by you.

UGH.  Of all the things I could go back and NOT do, it would be contacting people who I felt {and maybe justly} were copying me.  I will NEVER EVER do it again.  Why?  Because you just don't know the truth.  You just don't.  And I know this for a fact because it just recently happened to me.  I had someone completely lay into me about something I was making, that looked completely different than anyone else's, but because it served the same purpose they were convinced that I was copying them.  They laid out all their evidence and my heart was completely broken.  Their words were sharp and cutting.  I knew that I knew, they were WRONG about me.  I had gone out of my way to ensure my product was unique and different and "me" and it did not matter to this person.  I was accused of setting out to not only copy this one item but to copy them on other things as well.  The best part was that the person I was accused of copying did not have a single unique item in her shop that I had not seen elsewhere from others sellers I had followed for much longer.

And it was this juxtaposition of truth and accusations that God showed me the truth, that you can't know anyone's intentions and not assuming the best is dangerous.  I can tell you that there are few times in my life where I have been more hurt by words.   Like, deep, aching pain that is still there to this day.  A sharp reminder to me to always extend grace and assume the best.  Encourage other makers and don't knock them down. 

I will never ever contact someone to accuse them again of copying me.  I WILL use that as motivation to work harder and better and do more things well but I will never again assume to know someone's intentions because I NEVER want to make someone feel the pain I have felt.

Now, stealing photos or art or words are different but I know that my words to speak to them will be kind and WILL assume their best and act accordingly.

So there we are eight years into owning a creative business.  My best bits of advice and the hardest lessons I have learned.  All painful but all growth inducing.  All have made me a better person in the end and I feel, have allowed me to contribute more richly to the creative world AND the people in my immediate world as well.

As I am thankful for the learning curve of motherhood, I am thankful for the learning curve of being a creative being.  He has made me this way and I am thankful that He helps me navigate it all towards His purposes.  I am excited for the future of this path.  With these lessons in hand the learning will be all the more great.

xo


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